I joined about a week ago and wasn't sure where to start. I am 44 recently divorced after 20yrs together. I have no childern. The business we shared was our child. I know now that the business put alot of stress on our personal relationship. He traveled several days a week (over night)and I ran the business. I told myself that we were doing this together and that the sacrifices we were making now would be worth it in the end. (early retirement-no financial worries). I thought we had the perfect life. We could talk about anything, we were so lucky to have each other. After 20yrs I thought nothing could shake us. Towards the end I noticed little changes but thought he's tired and over worked. One night I sat him down and just asked him "Is there someone else?" My worse fear came true..I really didn't expect it. He calmly said "yes i've met someone and I think I'm in love." I went numb,and then I freaked. Anger,betrayal ect ect..I wanted to hate him but I couldn't he was my husband,my bestfriend and my world.
Have to stop for now...bring back to many memorys like it was yesturday. Thanks for listening.
Welcome to Support Groups, am feeling your pain & my heart goes out to you, we're all here for you when you would like to talk more & let the ton of bricks off your shoulders as alot of us here have or just rant/vent. The process of figuring through the WHYS & WHAT IFS is long. I'll be thinking of you.
Take care of you
April
Thank you April for your words of encouragement. Your right it does feel like I’ve been lugging a ton of bricks. Felt good to write alittle yesturday.
Welcome Puddie. I'm sorry for the pain you feel but I understand. I was with my exhusband for 14 years, mariied 12 of those years.
I had a hard time finding myself again for different reasons.
I have a wonderful man in my life now, we have been together almost 2 years and I am happier than I ever have been before.
You will get there. It is not easy, but you will get there in time.
Baby steps. Start doing things you enjoy. Book groups, coffee, museums, concerts, movies, parks....just start somewhere and get out there and do it.
I was NEVER by myself in my life until we split and I was terrified, but slowly I began doing things on my own. Hang in there. I'm here if you want to talk.
I have barely started this process of letting go and trying to move on. It amazes me how my mind can fly in so many directions at once. It hurts to think about all that could have been and it scares me to think of what will be. I have never been alone in my life and not sure I want to be. I keep the faith that some day I will find someone to share my life with. I have so much to give but want to make sure this time it will be given back. Trust is my issue now and I have to learn this all over before I can move on with anything. It gives me hope that others have found happiness after all the pain of divorce. I hope that someday I too will find it.