For those of you who are new to the group, I'd like to welcome you to our group. You will find much support here as you travel your journey... The site is worldwide...so I've met others from all parts of the globe... At the bottom of this page there is a FAQ, I hope that it will help you...at the top of the page is a link "groups" that will lead you to all the groups that SG has.... If you have any concerns I will try to help you, if I cannot, then I can forward your concerns to the administrators of the site. Please be aware that we try to protect those here....we are all here for support....so if you see anything that suggest someone is trying to sell something and take advantage then you can find a flag in the upper right corner of the post, feel free to red flag these things as administration will take care of them..... Also help us keep the site safe for our children who are on here to get support...we have many young people on here...as you know kids grieve, and kids have trouble sleeping just like the rest of us...so let's keep them safe... Thank you , and welcome to SG....I'm here if you need me.....hugs....
Clearly my grief group is not having a party... But I liked this welcome... After my father took his own life, I would go get a single ballon every aug and pray and set it free, so that's why I like this welcome sign..
But don't think twice..I know grief! And do I... I've studied the subject for three decades and have dedicated my life to helping those in grief...
All volunteer ... For now... But I do see this as a real special gift, and it hope to use it more in the future..
For those of you who do not know me. I'm theunloved... I'm here to help you. I've grieved more lives then I can count.. The story that I'm asked to share most is about my father, my best friend...
I share it because many of you deal with this type of death, you need not suffer in silence... :)
I was asked to share this again,..Warning, this is sad...Well it was Friday August 23rd 1991 6 days before my sons first birthday...11 am and my now x was watching a movie, so he was annoyed when the phone rang, I answered it but was distracted by that ***... My dad, he sounded so horse like he was screaming all night (a therapy) he told me he loved me, and I just started raking to him not knowing he just had something to say..so when I finally shut up, I told him I loved him too, his words were exactly " I know that you do" spoken almost like a robot, as if he wanted to exaggerate them so I'd never forget... He had just moved and I had no address, but it wouldn't have mattered.... As soon as he hung up he shot himself twice....the gory details that I asked to please not tell me... Well...the evil in the family made **** sure I knew every gory detail... As she said them to everyone over and over.... My best friend, my only family as far as I'm concerned...gone. Just like that. There is no why.... There is never just one thing in these situations..... As I grieved I grieved hard and long,..my heart is really soft.... Anyways... A year or so later we had a real big storm here... It was intense...I love storms,.. So I sat out on the patio as board flew off the patio cover... And I cried harder then it was raining... I lved the lightning...probably sounds crazy, but I felt like god was feeling my pain... My husband he came to that door and laughed and pointed at me... I stayed married to that cold heart for 22 more years because that is what marriage is to grow old together......the next 22 years he was no more caring then he was that day...he's a cold hearted cheater who is so **** selfish all he cares about was himself...and although I'm grieving others deaths and a divorce and an illness...I can still share my dads story and tell the world that the saddness reaches far and long..like a ripple across water. His p***ing affected people who didn't even know him... And that ripple is still drifting...I was suicidal just a few months ago... **** it's tough... I've never been mad at him because I know how it feels to be that sad...but everyone says he was selfish and most people don't understand that sadness ....so they just get pissed off... Well that x that my dad was so good too...he has always been an *** about my dad, my best friend, and now look who is the ***... My dad was a better man then he will ever be.Leah
thank you so much
My dad killed himself when I was 14. That day I lost his entire family because they said it was my fault. He had spent the day telling me he was going to put my mom in a pine box then kill himself. After hearing that for months I just couldn't take it anymore and I told him I don't want to hear it anymore. He shot himself thru the heart that night. 20 years later it still hurts like it happened today. I've known more death than I have life. From murderers, to the murdered, to the self inflicted. Some days it's overwhelming to the point I cry all day long, but others I'm finally able to push it to the back of my mind. The grief rollercoaster never seems to stop.
@inthemoment So true… It hits like waves in the ocean… Sweeps right over you when you don’t even see it coming… I understand
@TheUnlove Wow, beautiful welcome for SG friends, thank you, @TheUnloved. Yes, we all have to deal with grief in our lives, some more than others. But we tried to coped, and remembered the loved ones with Love, and in Faith, that we will meet again, one day in the Future. Be strong, the best is yet, to followed...... SG friends are here, to support, and be supported. Be hopeful.
Thanks for the warm welcome.
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