forgot to mention that taking responsibility for everyone (except myself) has also been a big problem for me. I can do almost anything for others but neglect myself. Everyone except me has value - right? Sometimes I feel that if I just live in my own world, if I just avoid everyone.
Me too.
Well that's one of the core symptoms of codependency as I understand it. We take care of others because we're avoiding addressing our own needs and are afraid to express our own needs. But withdrawing from everyone and everything doesn't work, I know from personal experience. I'm working on boundaries at the moment- I've always felt I had to be involved in everything that was going on around me, even from a very young age. Now I'm trying to consider my own feelings more.
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