My only friend is moving cuz her dad isn't doing so well, and I totally understand, she needs to be with her dad that's important and a very good thing, I just can't help it I am extremely sad, I have been crying all night, and I self injured tonight, I can't sleep. I am just going to miss her so much. I feel like I am being selfish, and I am questioning if i am being a good friend right now, it's not all about me, and my feelings it's about her being with her, her feelings and her dad cuz her dad is sick amd that is where she needs to be with her dad. I totally support her and want her to be with her dad, I know she is sad too and is going to miss me and she is also sad that her dad is sick but I just can't stop thinking about how sad I feel and how much I am going to miss her. Are these feelings normal, am I being selfish, am I being a good friend/ supporter? I hope I am not being selfish, and that I am being a good friend and supporter.
princess
any loss is going to affect a relationship and how we initialy feel about it, its sad that u self harmed rather than gettin your thoughts out here but im glad u managed to get them out now.
sometimes being a good friend means lettin people go and do the things they need to so that they dont have to choose betwn you the friend and in this case her dad
but correct me if im wrong she will still have a phone a net to use and im sure the post man delivers letters if all else fails so yes u wont see each other daily but u will still be friends sharing and caring and u will be giving her support for the most important thing her dad,
its up to u to lead the way in this friendship for a while, u need to be upbeat and site all the positives that u know will happen and just be there so she can vent/rant if she needs to about her days of worry and the toll it will take on her health as she watches a loved one struggle with an illness
so no hon u werent selfish just a tad short sighted and thats ok cos we always see the worst before the sun rises and things get better
take care of u both
as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
D :)
Grief about your friend moving away and know she will not be right there with you is normal. I am so sorry you self injured again. hang in there sweetie.
Luck and Love
princess, it is completely normal to miss your friend. moving home and moving to another country i have had to leave my best friend (and others) behind many times. yes, it will be hard in the beginning for you to not have her around but if you are true friends that will not change anything. you will still be there for each other, no matter. and right now she needs you as you need her!
you can tell her how much you will miss her but also let her know that she is doing the right thing and that you support her in every way possible.
i know you have been holding back for quite a while now to sock and you should be proud for how long you have managed that. see this one time as a slip up, a little stone you tripped over on your path, but keep moving on, princess! you're such a dear woman and i believe that you can beat this!
lots of hugs
maedi
Domestic, yah she will have a phone and a computer, so we can talk on the phone or email.
Krisalis, Yah I do need to grief about my friend that is moving.
Maedi, I am glad you said my feelings are normal, cuz I was feeling bad cuz I didn't think the were and I was being hard on myself cuz of it. Your very right, I just tripped on a stone on my path of recovery.
I am feeling better now thanks. I think it's just always the hardest in the beginning, and that it just takes time to feel better about this. I am going to miss her and I am sad that she is leaving but I totally support her, and know and understand that she needs to be with her dad, that is important and she is doing the right thing, I know we will always be friends, and we will always be there for each other and she said when she can she will come back and visit me and others as well.
princess
well done hon its always hard to have to put someone else first and u are doing a fantastic job
and its great to look forward to a visit even if it takes a while
so proud of how mature u are being
as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
D :)
this distance may even bring you closer in the long run, sweetie!!! at least thats what happened with me an dmy best friend :-)
love
maedi
Domestic, yah it is great to look forward to her visiting, and Maedi that is so true of what you said it may make us closer in the long wrong, thanks every one for your support.