so I have figured, I really have no friends. None. Sure I have a few people that I hangout with sumtimes, but rarely. I mean who sits there, and demands a **** shirt back, aftr you have had it in your possession for almost 2yrs, but still call you her friend.shes bitching at me and hitting me in all these already sore spots already knowing what's it's doing to me. She also desided that last night was going to b awesome and write all over my roomates car saying that he is a loser, a queen, and loves penise. What kind of immature fun is that? It's not fun or funny, because who has to listen to ur roommate tell you that you have the worst choice in friends. It's why I don't like having chick friends. To much **** drama. And it pisses me off. Yet she goes on berating me saying I'm not good enough to wear her clothes because I'm ot skinny enough so I'll stretch it out. That one cute shirt won't make my wardrobe anybetter. I wanna hit her in the face so bad. If she only came to vandalize my proprty once again, I'll for sure do it. Hmpfhh sorry. Just ranting lol
I think there are times where it shows who your real friends really are. I have had so called "friends" that were so petty that I had to question why I was even hanging out with them. I hear where you are coming from. I think my true friends will only be there when I am down. I really don't have many of those...maybe most of us don't as well.
i know. and i curse the day when tv and movies where invented. they drop my self esteem so low. all the thin and skinny people on there. and they always show people with best friends and a bunch of them and it makes me feel like im not normal. i only have 2 best friends, one blabs abouut everything, but shes always here for me, then my other moved to texas
sami
you are quite right tv gives a distorted view on friendship, most people and i include myself in this can count true friends on one hand, but as we are social beings we have many aquaintances throu our lives.
some are like your "friend?" realy not what we want but they fill a gap and stop us feeling abnormal/lonely.
stick to the guys if u find friendship with them better, daughter number two has a great group of guy friends who are just that friends, she has one female friend who she has known since school who is a fair weather friend at the best of times.
loving thoughts and positive vibes
D :)
thank you. im glad you took the time to read my rant. but your right. thats wut those "friends" are realy for. but thanks again
Sami,
I am kind of going thru the same thing. None of my close friends are nearby to just pick up the phone and ask if they want to catch a movie or something. Most are at least an hour away and no money for gas. I've been so busy the last 2 years here to really make any close friends. I too get depressed when I see and hear everyone else talk about their boyfriends with each other and the 2 of them going somewhere together. Oh well, it will all get better soon. Sometimes we have to go thru these tough times to find out how strong of a person we really are. You will realize how great of a person that you are and an even greater person tomorrow. Keep your light shining like I am trying, some days it will be dimmer than others and brighter than others, but we will make it thru.
I know exactly what you are talking about. I feel friendless too! I am at university and its the first time I am away from my boyfriend along with all my close friends from my last college campus. Here I have no close friends- only superficial friendship. I started noticing this a few days ago. I feel as though I cannot be myself fully around anyone which leaves me isolated and lonely. Only when my boyfriend comes to visit or if I ever end up going to my old campus will I feel comfortable enough to be myself and just really laugh again with my friends. Thankfully, however, none of my "friends" are cruel to one another and I am so sorry you have to deal with such immature behavior.
Keep writing okay? Try not to provoke the roommate. She doesn't sound worth it. Is there a way to switch rooms if you cant deal with it anymore?
allee
Sami, thank you so much for sharing with us. I really think that you need to distance yourself from this toxic friend, she sounds pretty bad on every level. Can you really even call her a friend? A friend would never put you in such an awful position with your roommate by doing harm to their personal property, a friend wouldn't put you down in any way shape or form. That's not a friend. I have always said that I would much rather be alone than in bad/negative company. You deserve to be surrounded by positivity and happiness. Obviously your roommate cares and has observed your negative surroundings.
Try to start distancing yourself from this friend and move towards meeting nice new people. It can take a bit of time, but you will get there. It'll be well worth it.
thank you Brightblue smile,and allee. and im not in a dorm or anything, i live in a house with my boyfriend and his roomate, making him my roomate. its just really aggrivasting.and thx puppydogluvr. i dont even really consider her a friend honestly. but im "friends" with her becuase my best friend, is her best friend. so its either get along, or dont see my best friend. which sucks even worse. so i do it for my bestie
Well at least you have your boyfriend around! Thats great! I wish I had that :) And if your best friend is her best friend, it means you see you best friend often I would assume. Unfortunately you also see your one roommate. I know it is hard to ignore her behaviors, but don't let them get to you! Have you talked to your boyfriend about the concerns you have about the other roommate?
actually i rarely see her. she lives in texas and i live in indiana. so i only get to see her a few times a year. and i can never save up enough money to go and see her. and it hurts lol but, no matter how hard ive tried, i cant save enough
Oh got it Sami, well that makes sense. I've totally been in that situation. It's hard when you have friends and groups intermixed because there will sometimes be that one person who is the black sheep and adds a negative vibe. You're definitely a good person for tolerating it for your best. friend. Good for you!
thank you! it means so much
This may seem strange but have you tried being a friend? Are you coming on to hard? Do you share to much information? When you meet somone, how long before you have sex? My suggestion would be to become a volunteer. It will get you out of the **** which will aid in a more positive attitude and better self esteem. Plus you will meet some really nice people. Contact the hospitals in your area, they ae always in need of volunteers. What have you got to lose but your misery. There is a story about three fogs sitting on a log. One frog decided to jump. How many frogs are on the log/ Three. It is one thing to decide to do something but doing it is another thing. I would like to hear from you. Let me know how things turned out.
Bil
i do get outside my house everyday. i belong to the american legion and i cook lunch for all the members who decide to come for the afternoon. and istay and help my boyfriend with the books. but i understand what you mean. i’ve done it before, i really have, and ive met some awesome people, but its hard to have a social life when you cant afford a car
We all need one or two people in our lives that know everything about us. Someone we never lie to and share evrything with. There are people who fill up our lives qnd then there are the one or two friends. Try this experiment. Stand in front of a mirror. Look your self in the eyes and say 10 times; 'I'm OK." This simple exercise will tell you a lot about yourself. Again, Good Luck and God bless.
thx to all of you again.