Getting Really Aggrivated

Mental Health Depression & Mood Disorders
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Ugh!
I am having a very difficult time here dealing with my emotions!

I feel like I am being purposely targeted around here as far as the baby is concerned b/c I'm the only non-blood related person in this house.

All of a sudden I am not allowed to hold the baby if I smell like anything, soap, lotion, cigs I can understand, nothing - even if I sanatize and wash my hands. I am no longer allowed to hold or touch her if she is sleeping. I asked to feed her and I was told no. I wanted to start reading to her just so I can spend 10 mins with her, no again. I cannot call her anything but her given name either.

My "sister's" real family her brother (my boyfriend) and their mom can though.

So why am I suddenly being treated like I have the plague?

I don't understand and I'm trying to find some rationalization behind it.

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Sounds like they don't trust you , that must hurt.
Whos baby is it your sisters ?

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I know how you feel
I live in a house with my mom my half sister and my step dad. Its hard at family events because im not blood to everyone there so alot of people treat me like im not family. Anytime you need someone to talk to, message me:) have a good day!!!

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To Beautiful Dizz and Amm1488,
That is NOT how family should be - I wouldn't even consider it family if they are acting this way.

My opinion? Voice your concern. Tell them that you ARE a part of the family and that you are being terribly hurt by the people you love, care, and depend on the most. Tell them that this is not how family is supposed to be, and blood or not, you're living under the same roof.

They need to put their selfish childish ways aside in my opinion...

Stay strong, for they will see your strength and it may humble them.

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Thanks Joshua :)

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Beautiful, I am so very sorry that you are going through this at home and with your family. It shouldn't matter if your blood related or not, they should embrace you and treat you like family; with love, trust, compassion and respect.

Have you approached your sister about this and ask her reasoning for treating you this way?

I know that you will get through this. We are here for you.

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Actually yesterday she had me pretty much take care of my niece all day.
Although I don't know if that will be happening again...you know I just seem to always be at the wrong place at the wrong time and have the absolute worst luck.

(I'm so embarassed to even be sharing this with you guys.)

OK, so I get done feeding the baby, burping her and have successfully rocked her to sleep. I am seated in the recliner and have been with it in the upright position. My sister is in the rocking chair next to me, baby bouncer on the floor between us.

Since having had 2 major back surgeries, I don't always bend so well. Baby in one arm I slid the bouncy seat over with the other. Carefully I laid my niece down, buckled her in and slid the bouncer away from the chair.

I usually sit in the recliner upright, one leg tucked under my butt and other leg pulled up with my foot on the seat.

I began to assume my usual position when the chair decided to recline - the last person who reclined in it did not lock the lever into place.

Out flew the foot rest, I went backwards and so did the bouncy seat with baby intact! The foot rest had caught the end of her bouncy seat!

I could not get up fast enough! I was screaming at the top of my lungs, "OMG!!! OMG!!! OMG!!!" scrambling to get up as the tears began pouring down my face.

All I could think was that I had just catapulted my 10 day old niece across the room and killed her. She didn't make a sound. My heart stopped.

Vary calmly my sister went over, straightened up the bouncy seat, unbuckled her and held her. My niece simply yawned and went back to sleep.

"She's alright Jen. She's fine."

I went outside and smoked 2 cigarettes in a row!

When I came back in my sister told me I had simply tilted her bouncy seat back, but I swore she could have been flung across the room!

Later that night I got a phone call from my boyfriend (her brother) asking me what the hell had I done to the baby. I learned when she relayed the story to him, aparently it was much worse than what had actually happened.

Emblishment for entertainments sake I guess, but he was not happy with me.

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Ugh, I am so sorry about that Beautiful. But, it was a total accident, you did nothing wrong. Please know that you are an amazing auntie and don't let anyone allow you to think any differently. I've seen women completely change when they become moms and totally become frighteningly overbearing and over-protective in an extreme way. They won't let anyone touch, let alone be near the baby. I understand her worries on the whole about her child, but it wasn't fair that she relayed a more traumatic occurrence to your boyfriend than she did to you. That just wasn't nice.

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That is pretty much par for the course. There was already some tension between the 3 of us…yeah it ended up in a nasty argument. But today, everyone is back on an even playing field again.

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I am sorry that you had to go through that tension and blow-up Beautiful, but I am so happy to hear that everything's back in tact.

By the way, I love your "BREATHE.......1..2..3..4..5..". I didn't mention that before. It's so important to take a moment to breathe, slowdown, and calm down in those moments.