Do you ever feel that you give and give give and give to point of denying yourself; but when you need help no one is there to be found? I am just so over it right now. Sometimes I feel like I'm pulled in every direction, but I'm right there wearing a smile with my time, my money, my patience. No one ever stops to ask me if I need anything, if I'm okay, what they can do to help me. They give me the platitudes, you're such a strong woman, I don't see how you do it. You're such a role matter. You got it all together. Well you know what? I don't have it all together and I am sick and tired. I am so tired of being strong. I am so tired of struggling, I am so tired of trying to please everyone and not piss anyone off for fear of losing them. I am so tired of acting as if everytihing is right in my world when my my world is such a mess. I AM JUST TIRED!!!!!
yes, i felt like this many years ago..
So i decided to treat every person as he is, do not give anything unless u r sure that this person deserves what u gonna offer...
Stay positive dear:)
I am the exact same way, Release Me...it does get very tiring. People wonder how I do some things, how I deal, how I'm not going crazy but they don't know, nor care, what's going on inside me. Especially in relationships, I give and give and give and barely get anything in return. It's not right, nor do you or I or any other giving person deserve it. We deserve to be waited on, hand and foot because that's all we've been doing for other people. I totally agree with Reham, give people what they deserve...nothing more, nothing less. And one day you'll find someone that deserves everything you have to offer and they'll give it right back.
Anyways, I hope that you don't put up with it anymore, and tell people how you feel, that you don't want to do things when you don't want to do them. If you are tired of it, don't put up with it! :)
Hey all, at what point are we allowed to lose hope? Being blamed for what is going wrong, for not being creative enough, not understanding, being selfish, being too demanding, not willing to make the same sacrifices...and hearing that it's all because of me is just getting too much. The real kicker is that when I say stopblaming me for everything, he denies it. Just wish we could be close again.
Hello,
I've been there many many times, i finally decided to start saying no.
And only a true friend (which are rare) will listen. The others will just blow you off, partly because they have no clue as to where you are coming from. They gotta walk the walk, make sense?
So i'm very choosy who i tell, mainly a doctor, or therapist or someone in the same boat you can bounce things off and they can do the same.
So don't feel bad about yourself or beat yourself up it doesn't do any good, i've trid it big flop lol
I can tell you've become a good actress, i've become a good actor and am very stingy with who i tell how i feel.
And feeling you have to hide plain old SUCKS. I call it self preservation.
And guess what you are STRONG for putting up with all the crap.
So do like i do keep up the act or self preservation. See a doctor or therapist They can give you stuff so you don't feel so tangled up.
And if it's not real imortant, say it nice but say no.
So what i do is things i feel important as i get jerked 10 thousand ways is to write myself notes. when one is done it's taken off. Take practice but you can do it.
Hang tough you can do it.
Do not loose hope,, if we always meet good people, we will never feel that they are good ;)
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