hi everyone,
I am feeling very lonely today....i'm not sure why, guess i feel like i will never find anyone worth while.
I want someone and then i don't. there is alot of aggravation when in a relationship so i don't miss that. But, i do miss having someone too.
I am so sorry that you are feeling this way today Heather, but it's so so normal to feel that way. I can completely relate, so you are not alone in these feelings.
I know that you WILL find someone, because you are so compassionate, caring and giving. I know that about you by your comments to all of us and how incredibly supportive you are. It's about finding that right one who will add to your life [and not take away from it], and who truly makes you smile. It's tough going through the process, but so well worth it when you get to the other end of it....a happy fulfilling and loving relationship.
In these moments, I suggest getting out with friends and really surrounding yourself by fun and happiness. You need to be around people, laugh and be silly. It really helps take the edge off. My closest girlfriends are out of town this weekend and it's tough not to have them here because when they are here, they are such an amazing outlet for me. We are silly singles together; we laugh a lot and even vent about the adventures of dating.
You will get through this time, I know that it's not easy, but keep looking ahead and dreaming of what you want for yourself and you will have it. Please keep sharing, I am here to help you in any way that I can.
thanks puppy!
yeah my friends are not available tonight so its up to me to cheer myself up :) Too bad we don't live near each other, so we can laugh and be silly!
But, we can help each other on here as well :)
Thanks again!
I know! I would absolutely love that, it would be too fun and fantastic. But, at least we have one another here and I'm so grateful for that. I'm going to watch a few sitcoms that I have recorded on my DVR to give me a good laugh. Laughing always helps so much. And, maybe try getting out tomorrow during the day, even if just to a cafe where you can be around people. Smile and be happy! We will make it through this time together. I'm always here for you!
i'm here for you too! thank you :)
I work during the day so i will be around alot of people!
Thank you so much! That really means so much to me. And, I am so happy that you'll be around people tomorrow, that'll be so fantastic. Try doing something that makes you happy and smile this evening, any little thing. Mine is a long hot shower, sofa time and silly sitcoms.
We all get lonely sometimes. Even when we are in a relationship or even when we are surrounded by plenty of people. I wish I understood why, when in doubt I like to blame my hormones, lol. The aggrevation in relationships is certainly something that makes us appreciate being single, but I feel that once we find that perfect someone, there will be challenges, but not aggrevations. The person we want to spend the rest of our lives with shouldn't annoy us! It's only a matter of time until we find what works for us. Despite all the hardships through my relationships in the past, I'm glad I went through them all because I truly have learned what won't work for me. And I remember the good things that have given me things to seek for in others. It's so frustrating sometimes, and I feel we can't control the outcome of most things because we can't control others. So I suppose what I'm trying to say is embrace whatever is happening for you now. If it's single, enjoy being single. We always want what we can't have huh? Or even worse, don't know what we have until it's gone...
xo, July
Seriously July, it's like you know exactly what I am going through and how I am feeling. Your comment and insights honestly spoke directly to me on so many levels. I am surrounded by so many amazing people, yet can feel so incredibly lonely and I like the hormones theory...let's stick to that ;-). As well, I have been assessing how a man makes me feel; is the dating/relationship more aggravating or just challenging....I haven't come to that conclusion quite yet, but it's very much on my mind. To be honest, today I'm aggravated by it, but let's see what happens.
And, I am totally embracing being single for now. There are so many positives, like being able to get up and do what you want, when you want, and how you want. I love this freedom and am enjoying it while it lasts, because once in a relationship there are many compromises. It's a good thing, but different. So, let's embrace and enjoy it while we can, because I'm sure it won't last long :-)