Its hard when I go to the malls and see kids haveing kids. How does God give them a baby and I can't have one. How is that right. They have sex one time and they have the baby and me we try and try and no baby. And some of the times they are not good moms and dads. I try to go out to have a good time but how I can you when there are babyies all around me. I see moms that are so happy with there babyies and thats all I want is to be a mom. I want to be up at all hours and not sleep, I want to sing to them, I want to hold them, I want kiss them and make there booboos all better, I want here mommy. And I think that I will never here that word mommy. I don't know how do you go about your day and not think of that. I try to stay out of the baby clothes but I can't. I just look at all the clothes and think of what if we had a baby. I go into are spair room and think of what it would look like if there was a baby in it. Sometimes I think that I here a baby and its was just a drem. I have a crib set and I think I may giveing it to someone that needs one. We don't need it right know. And we may never need it. I have clothes I have a swing I have everthing to welcom a baby home. BUT NO BABY!! I thing that I want to paint the spair room and try not to think of it as a babyies room. Maybe that would help me. Maybe that is one way of trying to go on with my life out kids. I hope you all have a good night.
that is terrible for people to say that you dont know what it is like. children are a blessing and i would say your right i dont know and i wish i did.grrrrr. sorry but that is rude and heartless of someone to say. people need to count their blessings. i hope and pray you will have one.i am here if you need to talk.
if those enormously lucky people with kids hurt you again by saying such cruel things, then gasp and say 'You r so lucky to have children. If I could have been as lucky as you!! I feel really jealous of you' just release all your frustrations by showing them how lucky they are and why they r so lucky.
Thank you so much.
Its so had to go shopping and see all the moms with there babys and not start to cry. I wish it was me. I can't bring my self to go to the doc. He is going to tell me that we will ever have a baby. I keep telling my self that we will try this time and it never happends. So i just need to do it this for me. This is killing me not knowing. I will try to get in this or next week.
One thing thus far that I've realised is hope goes along way. I'm so sorry Katiemm, I can't imagine what that must be like for you. It's always when you're especially sensitive to something, that your mind and the world around you seems to focus in the one thing you want. I do understand, perhaps not in terms of having a child or family of my own - but in many other respects. I know this mortal existance can be so cruel, I have seen and felt a large portion of it - but do not lose hope. Carry it within your heart. But do visit and speak with your Doctor. While the any news along those lines may hurt, speculating further will not help. I know I'm the worst at this type of thing - I think of every eventuality of a situation, to the point that I'm so hurt and wound up by my own thoughts that when I do hear something positive, I completely disregard it.
My thoughts are with you at this time :)
Thank you so much I need that.
Well this week is going good. I need to try to talk more to my hausband. I can't keep it all in all the time. He needs to know what I am thinking and what i want to do about haveing a baby some day and I want him to be by my side all the way. We don't have the money to do all the ivf and stuff. I hope some day we will have a baby. But I need to think of the what ifs. What if we will never have a baby, what if I never become a mom, what if my house never has kids in it. I need to think what my life will be with out kids in it. That hard to think of that my life with out kids in it. I have 4 brothers and 5 sisters. I wanted like 6 kids or so, but one would be the best thing ever right now. Whan I was younger I was aound a lots of kids. And being a mom is all i wanted to be. How do I go on with out kids in my life.
A very close family friend's niece found herself in the same predicament as you do. They couldn't have children of their own but they didn't give up hope. Instead they focused their efforts on the children of this world who are born without the love and warmth of a family. They adopted. They adopted three children all of whom are siblings. She, the woman, does at times struggle but the fulfilment she gets from being a mother - i know it must be something she treasures. I know of another family who adopted a baby boy - and you would swear he was the father's biological son. He is the spit of him. Do speak to your husband, let him know of your pain and upset. He is your husband after all. He most definitely loves you, share all your hearts desires with him and build this up in your marriage. I know its hard not being able to have children, my aunt has suffered multiple miscarriages al because she wanted to have a child because she knows how wonderful a father her husband would be, but perhaps the very children who are meant to be a part of your family will come by other means. This doesn't mean you should give up hope. Speak with your doctor, research the options and ponder on it. But don't keep it all to yourself, you have us all here but even moreso you have a loving person who stood at if alter and made vows with you, turn to him in your greatest hour of need. You never know he too may be feeling the exact same way as you. Lift each other up and out of the dark.
We do not have the $ to adopted. We just keep praying that some day that it will happend for us. And thank you so much.
Please do - I know how much prayer comforts me in a time like this - I go through problems too that pull such emotional strings. It is difficult, but please, please do. With God, anything is possible. I promise you that.
We try and try and no baby yet. I am starting to think that we will never have kids. Its so sad when you pray and pray for something and it never happends when you want it to. My husband drives truck so he is gone like 2 to 3 days out of the week so findding time is hard to do when he is gone so much. And we farm too. So when he is home he is doing stuff on the farm so when he comes home all he wants to do is go to bed. And I know he works so had and I love him for that. Someone at work just had there baby I am happy for them. But some days you just wish it was me. You wish for something for so long but it never happends to you. Some day I hope it will happend for us. And hope is all I have right know. I need to be happy that I have a good husband that loves me so much and is there when I need him to be when i just need to cry on him. and let it all out sometimes. He is my rock and the love of my life.
Katie, you need to allow yourself to rest. Emotionally and physically. I know that this is so much on your mind, but you need to allow yourself to not feel so stressed. When we focus intently on what we want, we often forget about other aspects of our lives - friends, family, loved ones. We become so consumed by our own desires that we seem almost numb when anyone else comes along that requires help or need in the immediate sense. Hope and Faith are amazing things, but they will die if you don't nourish them. Prayer is the way in which we communicate to our Father in Heaven, but through the Bible and other scriptures, is his way of communicating with us. He allows us to know his words, thinking and desires. He comforts us through reading and knowledge. If you can, spend atleast a couple minutes of your day, spiritually nourishing yourself. It's just as important, as washing or eating. You need to care for all aspects of your body, otherwise they will begin to slowly shut down. I speak only from experience, and the affects that have taken place in my life.
thank you so much for that. This week has been good week. I only hpoe that life keeps looking up for me. I need to start to think of things that I can do to keep me from thinking of this all the time. My birthday is comeing up and i never thought at 30 I would not have kids in my life. I just want my birthday to just not happend this year. I don't like my birthday I wish that I could just go somewhere and hide out where no one knows me. I hate it so much I try to be happy but how can you be happy when in the inside you are so sad. I love makeing everones birthday so much fun for them but when it comes to me I just want the day to be over. I hope everone have a good weekend.
Its had to go to a party when there are kids and you are the only one that has no kids there. I want a baby so bad and its not happending when we want it to. How do you go about your day and not think of kids. When its all you think about. I go to bed think of kids. I go to work and think of kids. I go shopping and think of kids. I go to church and all I think of is kids. How do you go on with your day to day stuff and and think of them. I need to stop think so much about kids and just go on with my life and just be happy that I have someone that loves me so much. I need to be happy and not stop being so sad. I look at the moms that don't take care of there kids. And it makes me so sad that God gives them a baby and not me. I never thought I would not have a baby. I loved kids so much when I was youger I was aways around them it made me so happy to around kids. Everone told me I would be a great mom someday. My mom had 10 kids and I wanted like 5 or so kids but right know 1 baby would be ok with me. I dream of what my baby will look like and when I wake up and its just a dream. Its like it will never happend for me. Have a good night everone.
I am with you. I am 40 years old and tried 1 IVF but failed. I am not sure if we do next or go for adoption.
Have you considered State/County adoption? They do home study but would not cost you. If you are up for older children who need home, you might be able to be a mommy.
My husbands brother is adopting 5 kids after like 3 years. Its a hard thing to do. The not knowing if they are going to stay or go. They had 4 other kids that we all loved so much and it was not fun saying good bye to them and not knowing if they are in a good home or not. But the one that they have now we all LOVE so much and thank God that he gave them to them. And we are all so happy that they will be here forever with all of us. God is the only one that knows when I will have a baby and I hope that someday soon it will happend for us. How do you tate the news when someone tells you that they are haveing a baby? I try to sound happy for them but in the inside I am so sad. I just want to be happy.