@tabbylady
Thank you for always taking the time to be supportive and encouraging! By the way… I think I heard that phrase “perfect imperfection” in a song.
Yep, I paid for a lot of stuff when I was working and he caused me to lose many high-priced items, even a car I had just paid off, but I start spending his (we are married), and he goes berserko. He left me because he said I put him in debt! He wasn't counting his ex and his four children, obviously...His daughter, in her early twenties, goes to a drug treatment center that ranges in price from $3500 - 5000, for a week's stay. She has been going pretty steadily, too. He is totally confused.
yep....all too familiar. i "helped" mine live the good life for 3 years... i took him (and his autistic boy) in he lived in my appt ate my food watched my tv, baught him 600$ glasses and coutless clothing... to make him look better so he could get a job... he never even once went for an interview... oh... but he had family issues, couldnt deal with the whole process of job hunting, didnt jave all the papers for welfair... well i ended up filing for bankruptcy... then when i had to move back to my parents he magically came up with all the papers he need... now HE has the appt and everything he needs with his son.. good for him really but too bad for me... yea they know exactly wjat to say and how to act to hook us line and sinker....
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What a story! And only a narcissist would have the gall to pull off a little scheme like that. You have my sympathies.
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@KurtMichaels
Well… How did it go??? 
Haha! She didn't know what hit her... Or at least she looked that way. She swam with the dolphins on Thursday and then caught the front end of a thong between two boards on the dock, while rushing to to a returning boat, and she took a nasty fall and a cut to the head requiring three stitches to close. So today she was still walking around with a bandage on her head and people are looking at me and I can read their minds: "What kind of a scumbag are you anyway?" Everybody is thinking domestic violence...
But we had a perfect reunion and tonight I'm dead on my feet. No grandiosity, no intensity, no drama, we are just so glad to be back together, and she told me several times that she missed me. I don't think I ever heard that from the narc.
I am so lucky - thanks for asking!
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Thank you, tabbylady. It is such a welcome feeling of contentment, after many months of being off-base, and in a constant state of extreme emotional turmoil. The irony? I was afraid to love, but the experience with the narc cured me of that forever. I now ask myself what could be more important than loving and being loved? And the narc, who devotes all her energies to loving herself? Deep down she hates herself, she hates the world she lives in, and she is bitter.