Have just recently been dropped by my narc, started reading abt these "interesting" folks just a few days ago, and its amazing that I never knew what he really was. Many months of telling me how great I am, then just dropped me last Thursday, it was, a week now, and he blocked my e-mails, won't answer texts, disconnected me from social media. I actually don't have a reason why. NO closure AT ALL. Every day is a battle for me, he treated me so cruelly, and at this point, I KNOW if he reached out to me, I would go back. And that really scares me.
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Read lucyrising.com
It was created by a member here (tabbylady) and has had experience with narcs. It has great information about them and helpful tips.
You won't get the closure you want from a narc. Your closure needs to be you slamming that door shut. No Contact is what you need (yes it will be hard) for your sake and sanity
beenused - welcome...this site is wonderful. Most of us have such similar stories it's almost as if we are involved/married/dating the same person.
I didn't know about any of this NPD until a few weeks ago. Wow. What an eye opener.
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After what I have read so far, I really think he dropped me because I would ask him too many questions. Every time we were together, he would say he only had an hour, or had to leave by a certain time. I wanted to know why, he would just say he was busy, or tell me something he had to do that could definitely wait (like grocery shopping). I think I called him out too many times. But he never even said goodbye, just cut off contact with me.
WOW! THANK YOU. Looking at it that way does make me feel a little better. I just HAVE to keep reminding myself that the wonderful things he told me were NOT true. So many promises for the future, so many flattering compliments that made me feel special. I never met anyone like this guy, and it turns out that it was because he was too good to be true. I need to focus on the bad, though, how mad he would get when I didn't (or couldn't) answer his phone calls, he made fun of me and my job, but would say he was just kidding, and finally, I know SO much about him (if any of it is true), and I really think he ended up knowing almost nothing about me! Eight months of barely ever asking me any questions about my family, my past. NEVER wanted to meet my friends, I really should be grateful it didn't get further. I am just starting wonder now, if it could be possible that he was in another relationship.
I have been on lucyrising most of the day, started journaling, too. I will print these posts out and add them to my journal. Trying to document the bad times so I don't get weak and try to reach out. He would try to make me jealous, saying nice things about how other women looked, but I don't get jealous about that, I would just agree with him, and he would say I was being sarcastic and a B----. I was on eggshells a lot of the time with him.
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