Have not made love in close to four years

There are two colleges in my home time. So there are plenty of co-eds walking around. My biggest problems is the way they dress. I can be ninding my own bussiness, see one, and off I go. I am 59. I would never approach someone so much younger, but they are so attractive and cute. I would avoid the campus but it is in the middle of town. Are these girls dressing this way on purpose? Then if they catch you looking you are either a pervert or a dirty old man. The intimate part of my marriage is basically none existence. This is why I look. I stay out of the chat rooms and porn does nothing. But can you imagine going close to fours without making love? What would you do.

I'd learn WHAT ran the intimacy/relationship off into a ditch in the first place......did you make eachother feel special??????? I can give you a list but it could take as long as it took to get it back on track, just a rule of thumb.........NOW I'm finding your threads.......no wonder you guys are sleeping in opposite rooms, what the heck happened, if you want to fix it???????

your poor wife....

intimacy isnt about gettin to first base its about doing something for someone else, do u rub her shoulders when she is tired attempt to make her feel good? somehow i htink u are confusing sex with intimacy.

we all see nubile young things whereever we go, strange old thing we were them once!!!

as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
D :)

Bill, D's right you may be confusing sex w/intimacy & in my life I've known alot of males doing just that which leaves the females EMPTY inside, cast aside like an old shoe & NEXT, its ashame more people dont understand that & teach the next generation how to not be so self absorbed.

Hi Billk52880, have you worked on the intimacy with your wife? There is a way that you can ease back into it slowly but surely, starting with romancing her the old fashioned way. Women need to feel loved and special, it can't be all about the sex. Maybe start doing little things for her here and there to show her how special she is to you; buy her flowers, her favorite chocolate.... Then, take her out on the town (however simple or upscale). To most women, it's simply the gesture that counts.

I know how you feel. It's easy to look the other way when someone hot comes into your field of vision... when you have had sex sometime the previous year.
It's a lot harder to avoid naughty thoughts about cute co-eds when your spouse hasn't turned away your every effort to get romantic.

Most Women see it from the woman's side only. I see it from your side, because my husband has denied me sex for most of three years. I know how hard it is when someone you love and want to make love to turns you away time and time again.

I guarantee you that those co-eds are cute, but they won't solve your problem. Please sit down with your wife and tell her how much you love her, and how much you ache to make love to her like you used to. Tell her what you find attractive about her, and why you married her in the first place. She will probably be willing to share what the issue is right away. If that fails, take her out on a date and listen to her. Lay on the charm, and don't give up on the first couple of tries.

I agree that you should make your wife feel special instead of ogling scantily clad girls half your age. You have an advantage with her - she loves you enough to avoid divorce up until now.

Mdsingleton, I'm sorry for what you're going through in your marriage, and I truly hope that it starts to improve for you. You gave such great advice and I think that it's advice that can apply to most troublesome scenarios in a relationship; it's all about being open and communicative with your significant other and trying to resolve the problem at hand. Thank you so much for sharing.

Thank you very much for your supportive comments. I am trying to be patient, and you are helping a lot.
This online group is wonderful.

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