I haven't heard from my middle daughter, who is 19, in several days. Contact with her is by leaving a message on her phone and/or Facebook. She doesn't answer her phone when I call but she usually does return calls if I leave a message. I have left a message on her phone and on Facebook. I just hope she is ok.
My 26yr. old lives 10mins. from my house & I rarely see him, hes always working or sleeping, everyone is just so busy in life that they miss smelling the roses some days.
Both of my boy's 22 and 25 live within 20 minutes of me and most of the time, I'm lucky and get a return text message. But, they don't answer more times than not when I call either. The oldest never answers. Too busy with friends and girlfriends, I guess.
When they have kids of their own, I am hoping it will change. I hear from other people that it is more usual that the boys are like this than the girls though.
I hope you hear from her soon!!
She finally called Monday but my husband and I were out. She left a message with our youngest daughter saying she would be by later but never showed. She did come by for a little bit yesterday. She talked a little bit and went into the kitchen and ate. Usually when she stops in, she eats alot and chats for a moment then leaves which is pretty much what she did yesterday. She brought her laptop and was on it also while she was here. I found out that she was out of town for a few days the weekend with friends. It just seems she has plenty of time for friends but no time for family. I am adjusting though it is hard sometimes.
Thank you both for your shares. I don't feel so alone.
its the age group they are neither adults with maturity or children to be run after, funny really but if u take them to task its the eye roll and a "awww mum u should have known" so blu get out those x ray specs and don the super spy costume or better still trust in the things u have taught her and let her fly solo untill she has a problem she needs support from u for.
beleive me they always turn up for food cash or a heart to heart when they want to, selfish yes but lets face it our teens were nothing like the teens of today,
as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
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I just found out that my 25 yr. old was out of town for a four day weekend. He didn't think to tell me beforehand. He said that he didn't think that it mattered. They don't realize that Mom's always want to protect our young!! Don't get me wrong, I am definately not over-protective. But it would be nice to know if he is out of town if something happened to him or God forbid to his home or a pet while he was gone. And what if someone else in the family became very ill or died, how would I contact him. Don't use the brains God gave them somethimes!!!
Oh Well, someday he will realize these things if he has his own children.
I'm sorry you are going through this you guys.
It's hard being a mom.
I know when I was young and in college I never called my folks except like once a week and I am sure they worried.
Now I worry when ours don't call.
I am so mad at my son. He is supposed to be going to college in January. He is really on my nerves. He kind of makes a mess and don't clean it up, doesn't do anything to help out, lays around, plays videos and watches TV etc. He is always out revving the pickup up and I get mad when I am trying to sleep cause I have to go to work.
He got back from basic training last Thursday and it is Wednesday and I am already irritated. I feel bad about it. He was supposed to get back Wednesday but he got drunk in the airport (yes he is underage) and threw up and they took him back to the base and didnt let him fly til the next day. How embarrassing. It is a good thing he already graduated or he would have been in a world of hurt. I know kids will be kids but it was very stupid. Then of course it screwed everything around when he was getting back. We ended up having to miss most of our daughter's volleyball game to go and get him.
Kids sure don't think before they act. He has always been a strong-willed kid. When he was little we had to spank him, put him in the corner etc. When older he was always getting grounded and losing his car or phone. But he just can't quit running his mouth.
I wonder if he gets that from mom? lol :)
LOL ! You are OK. We all have to get it out.
Hey poppysmom, You bring up a good point. I have told her I am not trying to tend to her business or keep up with what she is doing but it would be nice if she would let us know when she is going to be away and how to contact her if we should need to. I am going to remind her of this again. I am 49 years old. A few years ago I went on a 2 week vacation with my husband's family. I gave my mother the information she needed in case she needed to contact us while we were gone. I did call her a few times while we were on our trip. I am just asking for some common courtesy and consideration for others from her. I don't think I am asking for much.
Hi Bluidkiti:
No, I don't think you are asking for too much either. I totally agree!