My husband took our son for a couple of days. I told him I would be expecting him back at certain time. That time came and went. He received a copy of the divorce complaint while my son was with him. When he finally called me, told me he would not return him because he was upset about my petition for support. I told him I would file an emergency custody hearing. He brought him back a few hours later. Before he knew about the support hearing he only wanted him a couple of weekends a month. There is no way my husband will give up his lifestyle to take care of our son. Why is he such a greedy b**tard!?
Divorce is a very difficult situation and brings the worst out of people. Only with faith and prayers everything will go smoothly. With your patience and determination things will settle properly. Take care of yourself and your son. God bless you.
My husband made a big deal out of time with the kids when for months before leaving he just wanted to be away from everyone. First few comments to me about the kids were very telling- he thought half the time with the kids meant he only had to pay half support. Funny when we got to legalities, and he would have to pay the same amount regardless of time spent, he didn't worry so much. Always was about his money- that he never really had... a shame.. kids deserve better.
Not only is the process of divorce a journey that is feeled with such high stream emotions and pain but, the remnants of it is just as bad for some of us.
My children's father beat me, took our children, and left me with no place to go. When I took the Police back to the house to get my children and have him arrested; the policeman told me that possession was 9/10th of the law.
My ex then filed for divorce and custody and when the divorce was final, two weeks later he got married. I lost the custody battle because I was not in a position to care for the children having been a housewife.
That was 24 years ago! It doesn't hurt today anywhere near the pain and emotional tourment I felt then. Take it a day at a time. I only wish there was this type of forum available when I was going through. Just know that you are not alone.
My husband just uses my children to get back at me. he hasn't bought them christmas or birthday presents in over 1 year. He is paying his child support but not paying his haft of medical, schooling, daycare. It is a hard life and a long road. keep your head up.