My fiance' walked out on me after 12 years. I am so lost. I cry constantly. I was never this type of person. I have always been the strong one who supports everyone else. I did not see this coming at all. I am trying to be strong and live life but it just feels like a big nightmare. I love him so very much. I have waited on him hand and foot . I have never wanted anything in return but for him to love me. If someone who reads this has been through something similar and has any advice I would appreciate it. I am just so miserable because I am so in love with him. I am not even mad.
How long ago did he leave? 12 years is a very long time. For me, it took getting mad to get over it, then the anger turned into something I could tolerate, finally was able to deal with him as a friend for our daughter. Break ups are always hard, especially when you have so much time invested in the relationship. Give yourself some time, but also remember you deserve better, you deserve for someone to return that love!!! ((hugs))
You are not alone, my fiance left on May 13th. I am trying to regain functioning from a stroke in Nov. He came home and while I was on the phone he kept trying to talk to me. I answered some questions but tried to finish my conversation. To make a long story short we argued he said He couldn't do this anymore, he was done. He knew when he left that I need help but it didnt matter. He stated you are going to miss me when I am gone.
Let me say THAT THIS IS NOT EASY. I have supported him through his trials and tribulations in life: incarcerations, substance abuse, his other women, etc. I would newver leave him when he was down. Yes, I cry and get angry. I recently found out he was pursuing some women in Sacramento and he started this around June 11 - not enen a month after he left.
I need to heal to get my functioning back after the stroke. Through pain is healing and strength. I might be down now but I will bounce back. I hope the world is ready for me cause I'm coming back strong and hard. Let not your heart be troubled, lean not to your own understanding but trust in God. Live your life beyond the level you are on now allow growth to happen. Be that rose that grew from concrete.
sorry about the typos I can only tpye with one hand.
I am so sorry 12 years is a long time, although when you really love someone it can hurt just badly if they leave in 3 5 8 10 12 20...... I'm sure you are confused, feel like you lost your right arm, keep going over scenarios over and over.. you are gonna have to let yourself heal. take a hot bath and sing your heart out to adele, spend time with friends. cry your eyes out when you need to. punch on a punching bag. but do not internalize the grieve and anger it will only make things worse. getting over someone is a long arduous process. but when your ready don't forget to open your heart again. give love and receive love.. you are gonna get through this and be even stronger. you know you are worth loving so do not let this ruin your self confidence!!! but right now just grieve and heal :)