He says he calls me names and puts me down and belittles me because he is struggling with his recent diagnosis of VERTIGO... I feel bad for him...
He's unleashing his discomfort and frustrations on you b/c he knows you care for him and will take it. Compassion/care/love is special and nothing to throw away but you deserve to be treated with respect. Once you believe that about yourself it won't feel impossible to set boundaries and protect them.
I try to set the boundaries but I fear he doesn't take me seriously due to our significant age difference. Everything I do is nothing like how he does things because we were raised differently... Well duh! U were raised 60's and 70's by both parents... I was raised in the 80's by an indigent drug addicted mother and in the 90's by 23 differt foster homes... Obviously we see things differently. Not to mention I'm a free spirited noon planning embrace the day as it comes Aries and he's a live each day the same way no room for change structured Virgo... My fire to his water... I'm the LAST person to bully or judge anyone always optimistic and forgiving where he is pessimistic quick to point out how everyone will fail (including my two toddlers) I'm about positive reinforcement... He's more of the negative antagonistic rain cloud....
He will take you seriously when you show him there are boundaries no one, including him, can cross. Let your babies be your motivation if you need that, because you and they deserve to not be put down like that.
Thanks :-) it's so nice to hear... Well... NICE!
As above, his condition is absolutely no excuse to take it out on you. It might be understandable (maybe) as an initial shock, but afterwards if he was decent he would have apologised for taking out on you, and it should not continue. Hope it improves for you.
Hope you had a good Friday :)