hello groups!
One of our moderators here had a great idea, ran it by SG, who loved it and asked if we would share it. this is completely up to you if you want to answer.
1.__What is your idea of perfect support?
__2.__What brought you to Supportgroups.com
__3.__What is the one thing that helps you best handle the life or health issue you are dealing with?
__4.__What is something you are working on to better yourself?
__5.__Which (living or dead) person do you most admire?
__6.__What is your greatest extravagance in terms of mental or physical health?
__7.__When and where were you happiest?
__8.__If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
and I will start off with my answers:
1.__What is your idea of perfect support? Listening and being listened to. Being supported and supportive. Always making time and having time made for me
__2.__What brought you to Supportgroups.com. Being confronted with loneliness, wanting to better myself, searching for a loneliness support group, and finding SG as the top search result
__3.__What is the one thing that helps you best handle the life or health issue you are dealing with? meditation and mindfulness. they go hand in hand. thats technically two things. sue me :-P
__4.__What is something you are working on to better yourself? anger management and stress control
__5.__Which (living or dead) person do you most admire? Tough one for as I pay little attention to what others do, and am not given to idolization. Siddhartha Gautama (better known as The Buddha)
__6.__What is your greatest extravagance in terms of mental or physical health? I cant ay that I have one, honestly
__7.__When and where were you happiest? Hiking alone in the Rockies as a teen. which is not to say ive been unhappy since, just great memories there
__8.__If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? though well under control, my quick temper
__9.__What is your most treasured possession? i'm not very into possessions, so none
__10.__What is your motto? Take no prisoners, take no sh*t. This comes to me from the lyrics to a song by Megadeth, but has meaning for me. Attack each day, each moment, with your whole being. Let no one and nothing stop you
@norseduncan - I learned some things about you I didn’t know and I can just imagine you hiking alone in the Rockies as a teen. Your motto rocks!!! crickets
1.__What is your idea of perfect support?
a group of people who will listen when all eles fails, a group of people who will not pass judgement, a group of people who has been there where we are that brings us together as one who really understands what we many be going through at the time.
__2.__What brought you to Supportgroups.com
thoughts of taking my life and i felt that i have no where else to turn for help cause i am poor.
__3.__What is the one thing that helps you best handle the life or health issue you are dealing with?
to at least talk to someone to better understand the reasons of my disorder, to put a name to the disorder and how to deal with them.
__4.__What is something you are working on to better yourself?
i try to better myself in all part of my life like deleting my facebook and to trmove my self from other groups that triggers me. back in nov and dec i sent out emails as well as yesterday i sent a email to the city council asking if i could be of any help as in going to poor neighborhoods to help clean their neighborhood up for free like picking up trash and painting over tags and graffiti.
__5.__Which (living or dead) person do you most admire?
mahatma gandhi and martin luther king
__6.__What is your greatest extravagance in terms of mental or physical health?
do not know
__7.__When and where were you happiest?
when i was a runaway at 16 years old living on the streets of detroit......... i was from georiga then
__8.__If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
not to get so upset from little things that dont mean nothing.
__9.__What is your most treasured possession?
my mind and my good memories.
__10.__What is your motto? to live life one day at the time do into others as if you would have them do into you. fight for what is right for all as in freedom.
1.Someone who not only listens, but truly seems to care.
2. I was in a bad way and I knew I needed therapy but didn't have time for it so thought I'd try to find a support group instead
3. Someone I can depend on not to give up on me. No matter how messed up I am
4. managing my approach with people at work, depression, weight
5. I don't really have an answer for this. Most people I meet have both amazing attributes and horrible flaws
6. I don't really know what that would be
7. I had just moved here. I had a decent job where I didnt stress about money, I had friends, and someone I loved. I was comfortable. It didn't last long
8. My black and white thinking. My inability to see that people do care about me (i still don't think they really do, but they swear they do)
9. This question made me cry. It's a 1909 VDB Wheat Penny. It was given to me by someone I care for very much. We don't talk anymore.
10. I don't have one that I use on any regular basis
There should really be an affair section along with infidelity, more groups to do with bad things that our partners do to us, my answers are too long for the rest but my motto is "Lifes a garden dig it" and "keep on keepin on" -Joe dirt
1.__What is your idea of perfect support? Someone who listens without judgement.
__2.__What brought you to Supportgroups.com A move accompanied by a deep sense of loneliness (and, coincidentally, I was experiencing my worse panic attacks at the time owing to not knowing that I was triggering them with a medication I was taking).
__3.__What is the one thing that helps you best handle the life or health issue you are dealing with? Research and application of various potential healing modalities . . . even if the efforts fail, I am actively doing something to try to improve my circumstances and health which in itself is psychologically helpful.
__4.__What is something you are working on to better yourself? Not be a victim.
__8.__If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? My age (I'd like to be younger) . . . such an obvious choice . . . if that answer is missing the point, I'll say I wish I could just stop caring what other people think and say.
__9.__What is your most treasured possession? My living space . . . in here I can seek refuge, work on healing, and simply be.
1.__What is your idea of perfect support?
When i can confide honestly with others and be be met with open ears and soft hearts. To share stories and positive reactions.
__2.__What brought you to Supportgroups.com
I wanted to vent to like minded people, also to learn more from my peers.
__3.__What is the one thing that helps you best handle the life or health issue you are dealing with?
Having others to share with. And YOGA
__4.__What is something you are working on to better yourself?
To be a better, sober parent/wife.
__5.__Which (living or dead) person do you most admire?
My mother, she overcame addiction and showed us all how beautiful life can really be!
__6.__What is your greatest extravagance in terms of mental or physical health?
My peace of mind...
__7.__When and where were you happiest?
Right now, it took a lot of inner soul searching to find "me"
__8.__If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
To stop judging others so critically (this support group helps me learn to be more open)
__9.__What is your most treasured possession?
My children and their future
__10.__What is your motto?
Real eyes recognize real lies
@norseduncan thankyou for posting this thought provoking entry. It is helpful this morning to read how others are feeling and coping. Thanks so much to those who shared their thoughts and feelings and coping skills. I sincerely appreciate you! Happy Holidays!
1. Someone I can speak to in confidentiality, without being judged.
2. Search for "bisexual online community." SG was the first result that wasn't a database of famous people who are bi.
3. Making my living space less messy.
4.Slowly taking apart the web of lies I've built, and keeping new people out of it.
5.My friend Eli, who isn't afraid to sing and dance a solo in front of the whole camp, and is able to rock it even though the choir teacher had him singing like, an octave out of his natural range.
6. I, uh....... can I skip this one?
7. Whenever I'm at Shrine Mont for camp, apart from my web of lies and the judgment of my peers.
8. I would change my need to clean everything, all the time.
9. My paperback copies of All The Bright Places and Splendors & Glooms.
10. Feeling bad? CLEAN. Clean and clean and clean until the room looks like it has never encounter a speck of dust, then realize that something is off, and start over, feeling worse than before.
_What is your idea of perfect support?
someone who will listen, let me vent, get everything out, then give me the kick in the pants to do what needs to be done.
2.__What brought you to Supportgroups.com
researching support groups because according to my therapist I was doing really well, but struggle with situational anxiety and depression (dealing with a prolonged divorce from a narcissist and raising 2 kids completely on my own after starting again with only the clothing on our backs)
3.__What is the one thing that helps you best handle the life or health issue you are dealing with?
- helping other people. As tough as it's been the last four years with each obstacle thrown in my way, I've managed to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. For one of my friends that I met in a DV shelter, that has not been the case - so hosting Thanksgiving for all the single moms, making sure my friend and her kids spent Christmas at my apartment with gifts under the tree for them, noticing the coworkers struggling with sadness or uncertainty at work and reaching out to do something nice for them makes me feel better.
__4.__What is something you are working on to better yourself?
self care. I am horrible at self care. I burn the candle at both ends taking care of my kids and then at work where I teach in a high poverty, high trauma school.
5.__Which (living or dead) person do you most admire?
While I never met my paternal grandparents because they died 5 years before I was born, I am amazed by their lives. Born in the 1890s, they raised 4 kids with my dad (born at the tail of the great depression) being the youngest by 20 years. They were emotionally tough people,
_6.__What is your greatest extravagance in terms of mental or physical health?
it was a monthly massage, but I cannot afford it now that the kids are in swimming and karate. So I guess it will be trying to eat healthy.
__7.__When and where were you happiest?
I am happiest when I am with all my favorite people. My sister and I are really close. My boyfriend gets along wonderfully with her and her husband, so when we are all together with my kids, or when we go to see to my boyfriend's parents- they are amazing people and have accepted us as a package.
__8.__If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
i'd be more assertive or better at time management. or based on that answer maybe it should be being more decisive.
__9.__What is your most treasured possession?
my grandmother's ring. I had the presence of mind to sneak it out of the house when I noticed my ex husband was pawning my belongings to hide his drinking expenses.
__10.__What is your motto?
God won't give me anything I can't handle. I just wish he didn't trust me so much.