Hello, I'm new. I've been with my partner for 4 years. We ar

Hello, I'm new. I've been with my partner for 4 years. We are not married but live together. We've had unrelated problems in the past. Im trying so so hard to be as supportive as I can be but because of the issues that we've had in the past I convince myself that what we are going through now with ED is so much more a me problem and less an ED problem. He is only 38 but does have type 2 diabetes. I love him so much but I'm honestly really worried that this might break us. When bedroom issues happen I feel like he is just discussed by me. He takes pills that don't seem to work which fuels my self conscious behavior. I just don't feel loved and attractive to him anymore. I hope this is a relatively normal feeling. I need advice on how to be more supportive and how to mend my self confidence. :(

Have you guys sat down and talked about this, he is probably embarrassed, not disgusted with you! You are hurt, he is hurt. There are sex therapists you can talk to, there is also tons of toys and sensual play you two can do, there are so many ways to pleasure one another that doesn't require him to get hard. We have such a heteronormative way of looking at sex, when there are plenty of ways to deal with this without being embarrassed or ashamed.

@CKBlossom
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. We have talked about it a little but I think your right. If we seriously discuss it, it will help. He’s a self conscious person in general anyway and I know my concerns make it even worse. It’s like we’re stuck in this horrible cycle that we need to put a stop to and open up the lines of communication better than we have.

What you're feeling is echoed by hundreds of thousands of other women who have significant others with ED. I'm certain it's not you and your man is very frustrated by his inability to make things happen.Try to be understanding and comforting and assuring that you're there for him. If Viagra and Cialis aren't cutting it. Look into Trimix injections. Trimix is powerful stuff and requires some schooling to use it right but it's worth it.