hello my first entry. im 51 years old and recently had my heartbroken. I never in all my life have loved like that before and he ended it without any warning. It has been 3 months and I still think about him constantly and cry as I am now whilst typing. I don't know what techniques to do to stop thinking of him and feeling the pain. Everyone around me keeps telling me its been long enough but I still have so much sadness and wish it would end but it keeps going on and on. He wont answer any calls, messages nothing only to tell me to get over it and f...k off! We really connected so deeply and he did that. No matter how old you are the pain is still the same.
Hi there and welcome! I'm so sorry for the pain you're in right now. It can be frustrating when people try to 'help' but really just make things worse. Only you can determine when you're ready to move on-everyone has their own grieving process. I feel like what's helped me in break-ups is not trying to push away the feelings. They're there, and they're real, so trying to push them away just makes it worse. However, I also try to cultivate new interests or get back into old ones- for me, it was creative writing, the piano, gardening. Things that make me think about what I enjoy and what I get pleasure from on my own. So instead of trying to think about how much you miss him, you can focus on creating happiness in your life in other ways. It really helped me to do that and just take my time-realizing that it does take time to get over someone, but that I should also focus on myself and what makes me happy. I would also suggest checking out the 'Relationship' support group on here. I think folks in that group may have some good tips as well. Best wishes and hang in there!
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