Hello. My husband went to Hawaii to meet his friend who is a girl. He said nothing happened, but I don't believe him. He didn't tell me he was meeting her because he said I would get jealous. I do think he cheated on me. I am so depressed and can't stop crying and I am also pregnant... any help or any suggestion on dealing with the crying and what to do would be nice.. thank you
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Um, unless he is in the military, why oh why would he go on a secret vacation to Hawaii with a GIRL when he has a pregnant wife at home. Hello, NOT OK!
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He was coming back from Japan and had lay over in Hawaii and left next day... But he met her there and she even picked him up and took them to airport ... They are friends
I am so sorry. He did this and kept it a secret from you. So how did you find out? That must hurt you terribly. Crying is healthy for you right now. It actually releases A tightness in your chest. I cry in the shower or car. You are in a very precarious situation. I suggest counseling for you if possible. Take time to grieve and more time to figure out if he is going to try to fix things. No contact with this girl anymore. Many feel safer if they give you access to all social network, passwords to phone and everything. Cheating is a form of abuse. You may want to work on an exit strategy as it will make you feel empowered. You can find forms at the library on seperation. Sending you hope, strength, ((Hugs)) GOD's peace to heal you.
I caught him having phone sex after he returned... So I asked him if he met her there and he said yes and told me that he didn't want to say Anything because i would get jelouse... Well they stopped talking .. I even texted her and she said no.... But seriously would she be honest about it?? Probably not..... Now every time I cry my husband turns red and his heart beats so fast... He is a nice guy and I hope nothing happened... But I don't want to sound naive or stupid... I am just a mess.... Btw very kind of you to reply.
He said he loves me.. But what's love got to do with it. You can love a person and cheat on them.. Right??? I told him I don't want his money and I would just leave and go to my parents.. know I question everything...... I used to be so happy and up beat but now I feel like I lost my self... I cried very little before but now it's daily.. I hate myself for that !!
No - I don't think you can love a person & cheat on them - if he did cheat (I'm not saying he did), but if he did he doesn't love you & you need to leave now... It will only get harder to trust as time goes on & you have to think about your baby... It's better to come from a broken home than to grow up in a broken home... Take it from someone who had nowhere to go - no family, no friends, leave while you can or you will find yourself wanting to leave when it's too late & you can't....