I have not had any luck with on line dating services any information on how to meet new people?
Hi Realdeal! You are speaking my language in that I was just venting this morning to my mom about how difficult it is to meet someone. I am trying online dating again, as I've never given it a real try. I will sign-up, go on a bad date, and be scared off from it. I signed back up one week ago and haven't come across anyone of interest just yet. Well, there is one guy, but he's so lackadaisical in his communication. And, I have no real interest in any of the others. The 2 guys I had an interest in both made me feel like I was applying for a loan or going out for a round of financing. Is this really what dating has become?
I want to be really open minded and maybe I need to expand to more geographic regions, I am not sure of the answer quite yet. I am also going to get out to events more. I figure between online dating and events, there's a chance to meet that right guy. All about moving forward with a positive attitude and outlook, it's not easy, but I am trying. I feel as long as I put it out there energetically and try my best, then it's bound to happen.
Please keep sharing. I would love to hear how you are doing and feeling. Wishing you all of the very best!
Well puppydogluv, you certainly sound like you are on the right track as i read your reply i could sense the energy be hide it. I did get a chance to go out this week end and it was ok, did not met anyone but its not always about that and besides just trying to get comfortable again. Not sure when or if i will try online dating again, i open up in terms of expanding geographically and racially but still no luck, no one wanted to meet just email or text and i want to meet in person. Good Luck to you., and keep be posted good to know I am not alone in this.
You are definitely not alone in this journey...I am right there with you and we will get through this with one another's support. I would love any updates that you would like to share. The Singles Support Group has become such a fantastic place for me to share my "adventures" in dating. I love everyone's tremendous support and advice. It really is good to try all channels of dating that are comfortable for you. My girlfriends really put themselves out there a lot more than I do with online dating, speed dating, and events.
I think that it's all about stepping outside of your comfort zone at times, all while maintaining and honoring your values.
Sending you lots and lots of positive energy!
Thanks, not much really going on, i was up late last night and decided to get on face book Z dating on line service but did not wink or try and get in touch with anyone on the site. I dont mind stepping outside my confort zone however, I dont want to look silly. I saw a guy today at the gas station and I thought he was looking at me however, he did not approch, maybe i dont know how to give that its ok to say something to me look… got to work on that.
I have that exact same problem when a guy will look at me, though I have learned that a simple smile will always do the trick. A smile is so sweet and innocent, that if a guy sees that, it's cracking the door open. Try it some time and see how it works. It's all about practicing these little things and then it gets easier and easier with time.
I just saw an ad on TV that eHarmony is having a free communication for 10-days. Maybe give that a try and see how you like it.
I have to get out of thinking, nothing going to work, I try to smile and speak sometime but they speak and keep walking, its a art of i guess confidence to this and i have to continue to work on it…not really sure what my fear is. One of my problem with on line dating is i don’t like to write and if i have to be judge on the stuff i write in terms of being a reflection of me, well not sure how good that is, i might be kinda like a guy i just want to get straight to the point, I like the flow of a conversation anyone can hide be hide words.
If they keep walking then they are absolutely not worthy of you and your time. They did you a big favor of showing you their true colors from the onset...so they can keep moving along. My spiritual advisor told me that when the right man sees me and comes into my life, he will stick and all others can try to latch on and they will just slip off and away, because they are not the right one.
This is all a crazy little process that I wish could be so much more simplistic. Think when I was younger and sassier I could approach guys with confidence and poise, now I become this shy school girl. My last boyfriend and I got together because I walked up to him at a party and was quite flirty. I took a total risk, but he told me that he never would have approached me because he was too intimidated by me. I hear time and time again that it's quite intimidating for men to approach women, just as much as it's intimidating for us.
And in terms of online dating, I keep mine short, sweet and to the point. if you need help, send it my way and I'll help you with it.
We will get there...I just know that we will!