I can't deal anymore...too much stress, overwhelmed, single mom of 2 under 5 yrs, no job, no car, and now just injured myself...can't stop feeling that my life is out of control! I'm 45 and alone and feel so helpless
Ugh! You do have a lot on your plate. 2 beautiful children. Hopefully you are getting some help somewhere. Do you live in a large metropolitan area? There should be some resources there.
I am a single parent too. A long, sometimes difficult, road it is. Can be seemingly helpless at times I know. If you are a religious person in any way, find a church or spiritual or religious center or church somewhere close by you that you enjoy and attend. There is hopefully a singles group and even a single parent group. Pray. To start. We will all get thru this.
Thank you so much!!
I live in small town filled with school buses, no public transportation.
I will be filling out my journal with my whole story, just don’t have a lot of time…my girls are all over me right now as it is!
Hey want to believe,
You need to slow down a bit for yourself. i know when the only that is on your mind is worries. Do you have any friends or family you can talk to and ask for help. Ask your family, I am sure they would oblige you in taking the kids for a while and giving you a chance to take a time out for yourself.
As for your job if you're injured, you won't be able to work so the only thing you can do is accept that, as hard as it may be and spend your savings on household expenses.
i know how hard it can be without a car, especially if yo are used t one but remember this won't be forever. But remember who you are doing this for...you and your lovely little tykes.
And instead of allowing all of these consume you, just take a while to sit and play with your kids. It's amazing the joy and peace they can bring us, just by seeing the little smiles on their faces and seeing the joy and excitemennt in them to spend time with their mummy.
Try and do a little exercise, exercise is a great stress release, even if it's just going to the park with the kids or a walk around the block with them, or handing ghtem over to the grandparents for an hour 3 times a week.
Sometiems the road seems long and winding, but you will get through every step. Just have faith, in God, yourself, your children and others around you.
Keep coming back for support hun. we are all here for you
Love to you
Moongal x
Thank you,
However, I don’t have many friends, my family have helped some with money but i live near my 76 yr old Dad and his wife and they don’t help much with kids. The rest of my family is getting tired of me calling and crying, I know they are…they don’t know what to say! I live in an area with absolutely no public transportation and I have to get out and about for the kids! I can’t find a job to support me and the exercise I was getting was teaching my fitness classes. I ruptured a tendon in my foot and am wearing a boot up to my knee. I so wish I had faith! Have never been religious so is very hard to believe in a God. I do have a support group 1x a week that I just started but I feel I need more…the thoughts I have scare me!!
I need to fill out my journal so you all can hear my whole story.
Thank you so much for supporting me, I need it 
Surprise him by saying Dear God thank you that I am alive right now and that I can hug my 2 beautiful children. Amen
thank you! I'm gonna try it!! Tired of feeling so sad and empty
Wondering how are you doing ?
Please let us know Ok !
I'm ok, thank you...I really appreciate you keeping in touch with me. I wish I had some kind of clue, anything!!
Hey hun,
Sori haven't been on to you in a few days. How did your day go today? Remember every small day at a time? So how was it? How are you feeling?
Really I want know hun.
Love to you
Moongal x
not so good, husband spending all his money on toys/candy for the girls and leaving me broke! doesn’t care about me and expects I can just jump up and find a job in a snap. he such the victim (not). I just can’t take this, what world is he living in…certainly not reality…god,my thoughts scare me
So you are married? Oh and would he be able to take the kids for an hour every evening to give you a "break". Because kids, as much as I'm sure you adore them can ne quite a handful and what they need is a well refreshed mother.
Are you able to look for work at present? Are you children at school? When is the last time you worked outside of the home? No, I agree it's very hard to find work.
Let me know more hun
And please hun, try and even take 15 mins in your room even, just for you.
Love to you
Moongal x
We are separated, he got physical with me in front of the girls in June. And I have a protective order. He sees them tue and thur nights & Sundays, but doesn’t get here til after 8 and the night before last, he had them up til 11:30 pm, and they both had school. Grace my almost 5 yr old (next week) started Kindergarten and Zoie, my 3 1/2 yr old goes to pre-school 2 days a week. So Kindergarten helps, but I am still not able to get a job. I haven’t worked in 6 years and I’d have to make enough to cover full time pre-school. I try to relax for me, but find every minute I have trying to send resumes (endless with zero results) I want to get back into Graphic Design, but have been out of it for so long and my portfolio is really not up to date, not cutting edge. I just don’t have what it takes.
Thank you sooooo much,
Moongal x, it means so much to me
Love back to you as well.
Hey WTB,
Ok, when the kids are at school yes it is good to work on getting those resumes out, but i think you need to take a little time in there for yourself. Maybe go out for a walk just something. that is not sending CVs, doing shoppinng, cleaning the house, and doing all the duties a mother has to do.
You need that time to be a whole person for your kids, because enjoying them is the most important gift you can give them.
i am so sorry your husband did that to you, i hope you are coping well with it, i cannot imagine it being easy to recover from someone you loved physically hurting you.
And don't let him judge...put everything into prospective you have two kids, you are trying to do the best for them, keep them fed and safe and loved...which is job number one. Maintaining a house. Trying to get CVs and leaving no time for yourself. Guaranteed if you take that small piece of time you will feel a whole lot better.
I am not too sure about graphic design to be honest, have you ran comparisons with newer portfolios. You may need to take a small course to refresh new ideas. But honestly you are doing fantastic..so don't let anyone make you feel otherwise...ok.
love to you
Moongal x
I am blessed to have my parents to help me, but I know the feeling that you're going through. I'm a single parent to my little boy and before I reached out for help I felt soooooo lost. I am unsure where you live, but there are assistance programs for food, childcare, medical. All of that. If you go to craigslist.com there are also some pretty amazing people that are willing to help you out under the childcare section. I know it may seem sketchy since you don't know them... but I found an amazing babysitter for only $3 an hour, which helped me get some time to go out and find a job, relax, and even make appointments on the phone without noise in the background. As for your husband.... I would recommend sitting him down and discussing your issues and your feelings in a non-emotional and non-angry way. This may help him listen better. I wish you luck! If you need anything feel free to message me! I enjoy talking.
Another single mum here but thankfully, my two children are older. I understand how it feels to be overwhelmed and feeling that nothing seems to ever go right, no matter how hard I try.
I'm not religous either, but I do have a strong faith. Keep doing what little you can and know that you will progress. I find that keeping the positive attitude is what helps me to survive through the crappy times.
I'm here and would love to chat if your up for it:) Wishing you all that is good!!! Hang in there! Manic