I was abused as a child and now I am talking to someone and getting help...and they say that I have to forgive...and I know that's best and everything but I don't know how...I know that sounds weird but like I'm not sure if I already have...how do you tell if you have forgiven someone? And how do I forgive? Please help thanks!
hi peacelove, nice to meet ya hun, wish it was better circumstances. we are all different so responses may vary. in my case i feel compassion for my abuser. he was sick. its a process different for us all. do you still feel hate towards the person? if yes, than you have'nt forgiven. i'm so sorry hun but grateful your seeking help.
Welcome to the site.
Forgiveness for me was not something that happened quickly. I spent years in therapy and one day I just realized as Kathy said, I no longer hated the person. Once that happened forgiveness was not far behind.
Not sure if that helped but I hope it did.