Hey guys. I posted before but may have done it wrong cause it never showed? So I'm just gonna make this short as possible! Good friends with co-worker. Could have been more but I was in and out with my fiancé so it never came to. I wanted it to.. But I live my fiancé. Anyway when I got engaged I knew he was a little sad. I even second guessed it. I left for a few weeks off work and when I came back I was told that my friend found out he had stage 4 pancreatic cancer. There is nothing they can do. My friend cut himself off from everyone and quit his job, understandably. I am completely heartbroken for him. He is such a wonderful man and a single father! I'm so sad for him. My question is should I tell him how I've felt about him all these years before its too late or just let it go? He was a lonely guy and never had a relationship as long as I've known him. He was focused on his son :) I live that about him. He did have a low self esteem and I knew he was depressed over it. I want him to know he was wanted and how wonderful he really is. Does this make sense? I really just dunno if it's a good idea. Plus we have mutual friends I don't want my feelings to get out and people turn it into gossip. I dunno. Overall I'm just so sad
Are you still engaged and plan to marry? If so I say leave this alone. You are only gonna cause the guy more grief if you tell him, but are still not available to him.
I agree with Mia.. This man has his plate full and he needs all the energy he has stored to fight for his life. .. Anything that will bring him down he does not need. He does not need to play the with if games in his head and save every moment to share with his son in peace. Try to be a friend and support him openly with ur engaged partner and help him would be nice. U never know what that would door him in his healing Ron his last days of journeying ... Good luck to you and ur friend!! Blessings
That's what I was thinking too guys. He has barely the month left. I don't want to make him miserable-er. That's not what I was trying for. My feelings for him are genuine. I just didn't know if I should say anything. You guys are right though. Thank you.
Ur so welcome and prayers out to ur friend. May his last days be filled with love and peace!!
At first I was thinking ,"Why not, it may make him feel better, knowing he is loved." But after reading the others posts and loving someone I can't have myself. I quickly remembered what it feels like when that person pokes their head into my life once in a while. I feel so sad after I interact with him. He says he loves me and wants me to know. But then I get all wrapped up in old emotions that take me DOWN. I then get depressed and neglect the here and now real stuff. Being a mom and not ever wanting to be a part time mom or move to where he lives and works is what kept us apart. If this guy has a short time and his love for his son is what you admire most, then I have to agree, let him concentrate on the people he has in his life, while he has it. I can almost bet he already knows your feelings for him because of your past history and the fact that you have stayed in his life. It doesn't make your feelings of loss and sadness less important though. I am torn because I would want to tell him too. But just show him by being a good friend to him and his boy in is short time left, especially if it getting out is a danger to his reputation.