Hey, this is my first time seeking support. I was diagnosed

Hey, this is my first time seeking support. I was diagnosed with genital herpes almost 3 years ago and I'm still struggling today. I have never not told a partner but every time I do I feel exhausted and like a part of me left.
I told my recent partner and he flipped, he hadid no idea what It was and thought I had given it to him through kissing! We had not engaged in any sexual activity by the way.
After many conversations and links to many websites he finally came around but he is petrified of touching me in case he'll catch it.
I'm new to America and at this point am grateful to have him in my life as he is my only friend but the whole ordeal has left me deflated and rejected.
I know we will never progress as a couple but I'm fine with that. After suffering a breakout this week, I feel really ugly and down.
How does one learn to love and accept themselves whilst going through this?

youll be okay. where are you from? go find a support groups
http://genitalherpes.org/herpes-support-groups/