Hi all, I just found out my fiancé is addicted to heroin. We have a 3 month old daughter. He is waiting to get into a detox program any day now. I am so scared and nervous. I have so much anger and am so hurt. I have nobody to talk to about this.
The way you feel is entirely valid and to be honest I'd feel the same way as you do. The thing is, despite what you're going through with your fiance, he is wanting to get help. You need to push aside all emotions and how you feel because you have this beautiful baby girl who needs her mother. In literally every single way imaginable. I know it's hard putting aside the fighting and anger, but your child needs to be the number one priority no matter what. Do what is right, even if it's the harder thing to do.
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Thank you for your response. Yes, my baby is what is getting me through these difficult days. He should be getting into detox this week. I am feeling better knowing that this is coming to an end.
Ya it can be a scary time. You never know what to expect. Heroin addicts lie, cheat, steal and manipulate. If he hasn't been doing it long then his chances of getting sober are better now then it would be if he was using it a lot Longer. I hope he gets the help he needs for the benefit of him and his family. Good luck. And if he's really serious about getting sober then helpl him. Encourage him, motivate him and most of all support him. If he's serious then try not to bash him or make this time for him more of a problem or struggle. For me, the Times when I want to go outside in my lil private area to use are the Times when negative things happen . Like for example when I'm mad, sad or depressed not happy, sunshine or joy. It's my boyfriend who hurts me. I'm in a domestic violence relationship with him, so I'm always in enough pain to make me use. Sorry I Was No Help To You.!
@Qu1f1re thank you for your comment. I am trying so hard to be supportive of him. He is always so mean and manipulative to me. He is always putting me down and he is always lying and accusing me of shit. It makes it so hard to be there for him and be positive and nice. He had lagged I. Getting to detox. He thinks he can lag on his appointments and they will still take him. 2 facilities already have turned him away for missing his appointment. You did help me and I am so sorry you are in a domenstic violence relationship. My heart hurts for you. Maybe you can get clean and get out of that relationship. Trust me I know it’s hard.