Hi all, I just joined today, and this is going to be my

Hi all, I just joined today, and this is going to be my first post regarding my journey with ED.
To start off with I am 56 yoa, and have been a type 2 diabetic for approximately 15 years (currently on the pump). I have had ED in one form or another since I was diagnosed with diabetes. I have used all 3 of the pills (Viagra, Levitra and Cialis), with minimal success. I have also been to the Boston Medical Group out of Chicago and have seen a doctor who did blood flow tests and vascular tests on me, and said that I am really not all that bad? I have taken their rx and injected my penis with the solution. This worked half of the time and then I found that I was having to increase my units more and more, and then still not getting the desired effect that I wanted. This was over 5 years ago and since I have been trying Cialis again with pretty much no results except that of the sinus congestion and headache after using.
During this time I got married in 2010 and can probably say that we had sexual intercourse about 6 times. My problem was I could never get hard enough to penetrate. I could however have an orgasm by receiving oral or masturbation, but again I could not get hard like I wanted. I know my wife was very frustrated by this and said at times that she had needs too. Well we are separated now and will be going through a divorce soon.
My issue is regarding finding another relationship in time, but I am fearful of a woman finding out about my ED and not wanting a relationship with me. I mean what woman would want a man that can not have sexual intercourse with her. The fact that I would have to disclose again that I have a problem with ED is just overwhelming. I find myself thinking about going on line and talking to women, but then don't because of the anxiety of knowing what would come in the future. I deal with this everyday and is on my mind in same. Maybe they could have an on-line chat group entitled "Women who love men with ED" ;)
I hope I haven't been to long winded, but I feel great that I have been finally able to share with others that have the same condition.
All the best to each and everyone of you!

Hi jazzman,

I know that having ED can be something embarrassing, and something I hear about a lot in the herpes group is about having "the talk." I think if you want to start dating again, it is important to have that discussion with someone, probably not on the first date, but letting them know it is an issue you have and you work on it together, to make it work? I know what you are going through with this. My heart goes out to you.


Hi KG,

You hit the nail right on the head my friend…the talk…it is something I had already done with another relationship, and I dread having to do it once again…but I know that in order for any of my relationships to flourish, I will have to at some point reveal once again. I just hope that I am able to find a woman that understands but also knows that there are other ways to give and receive pleasure…and I am definitely one that loves to give!

Take care,