Hi all, new here and just wanted to share my story. I am now almost 9 months into a relationship...or what I thought was one...with one of the most horrible human beings I have ever met. Trying to get the courage to end it this weekend. He played his game for 7 months...living in my house for free, eating my food and supporting his functional alcoholism, while keeping up his charade. I helped fix his credit, helped him find an apt, loaned him the security deposit for the apt, and within a week had re activated his online dating profiles and refuses to see me at all during the week. Even on the weekends when I see him he is totally zoned out. He has been withholding sex and affection for months now. I know what he is, I know the mistakes that I made and right now I just want out. He has no idea I know what he is up to, and I have been playing dumb for a month to get at least some of my money back. It is taking a severe emotional toll on me and I am ready to just cut my losses and bail. I am just so afraid that once I end things that he is going to try to come back. Do they always try to return and cause more pain and chaos? I am praying that he will just go his own way but was hoping for some feedback on what to expect when I end things.
Whitelight, sorry you got involved with this horrible person...and I'm so glad you woke up quickly and want out ASAP! Narcs don't always return, no. Sometimes once they see the well of attention, support, cash, etc. has dried up, they are happy to drop you like a hot potato and move on to finding a new source. I can't say conclusively, but from what you shared, I think it may go that way for you. At any rate, you have no choice but to break free...I'm hoping I'm right and it is relatively struggle-free!