Hi all. So I think my husband is addicted to Internet porn

Hi all. So I think my husband is addicted to Internet porn. He hasn't called it an addiction, but admits he has a problem with it. He's said he'd stop in the past, but hasn't. After the last time I found it, he put a password on his computer. He said that it's some game locking it automatically, but of course I have my doubts. He's spending time doing that instead of looking for a job, and the subject matter has escalated in...severity. I'm at my wits end with it. If he continues to lie about it, how can we get past this?

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Fact, you can't get past it. I've tried. It's just too damaging, the mistrust, the secrets, the lying, the false promises, the rejection, the comparing yourself to his stupid fantasies, etc. etc. etc. I've done it all. Got the friggin t-shirt. If he will not choose you over the women out in cyber land then you got to go. It will eat you up inside if not. This particular addiction is almost impossible to overcome without serious help from the outside and most men do NOT want to do this.

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@sickbutnotdead3 I think in my heart I know this…but I don’t want to admit it to myself. He reluctantly went to see my therapist a couple of times with me, but he put up a good smokescreen with her too. We didn’t discuss the Internet issue though, just the lack of working. When he was out today, I texted him and asked him for his password, he ignored it til he got back home. I tried guessing, but gave up.
Did you end your relationship, if you don’t mind me asking? I really appreciate your honesty above, talking with people here is already helping me think things through.