Hi,
I am in a lesbian relationship with a girl I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, she cheated on me with her Ex, I can't look at her the same. Will this go away with time? I forgave her and took her back for the simple fact that she approached and told me, if she didn't tell me I'd be non the wiser. Love is a strong word and I've never been in love before and don't want to throw this away if we can get through it? I'm pretending everything's fine, our sex life has gone down hill, she wants me but I struggle to want her too! Any advise out there to help me? I'm so miserable and heartbroken and this is the hardest thing I've ever written. I thought she was the one.
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Fair enough she told you but she still cheated , would you be ok with her cheating again so long as she tells you ? You cant look at her the same because she has hurt and betrayed you . Are you the kind of person who can really forgive and move forward ? If not you are just prolonging the hurt to yourself and you deserve happiness .
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Thank you for your kind words, before I met her I'd be the sort of girl to chuck anyone who cheated, I always slated people for forgiving cheaters but it's easier said than done.
Alot easier said than done. Its easy to say what you think you'd do when your feelings aren't involved. So before you loved her you were the type of person who couldn't forgive cheating, have you changed your mind now ? Im guessing not. Breaking up from someone you love is always going to be hard, but staying with someone who's betrayed your trust can be just as hard too. Are you different now ? Are you wondering what she's doing when you're not together ? Can you learn to trust her again ? Do you want to
In my experience, if someone cheats once they are probably going to again. It's one thing to forgive someone, it's another to forget. I don't know you and I don't know her, so play it by ear. I hope she is faithful to you going forward.
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