Hi I am new here and I am a step mom to three girls age 13,

Hi I am new here and I am a step mom to three girls age 13, 12, and 9 and I have a 16 month old baby girl. I am having a pretty hard time finding ways to discipline my step daughters I don't want to just gripe at them all the time but I just don't know where to begin. The baby is easier I have the advantage of starting at the beginning

Could you talk to their mother, having her on your side to help and continue what she does at her home would be invaluable to you both!

She and I have recently started getting along she is on my side but she and I have different ideas of what punishment to use I don't think she is wrong but I can't bring myself to do the same. She thinks that the guys are testing me right now they have started do things to me they wouldn't dare do to her and unfortunately my husband just wants to ignore it he's not a punishment guy