Hi I am new on the site and glad to finally find somewhere where I can tell someone of my problem. I have always enjoyed gambling (20 years) but recently appear to have lost control. This is probably due to being lonely with my son having left home and now residing overseas. I enjoy the outing to the casino but lately do not know when to stop and am now finding myself in financial difficulty and not knowing how to remedy the situation. I would never be able to discuss this with members of my family as they would be disappointed in me. I have tried to discuss the matter with a close friend who appears not to understand or prefers to ignore my problem. All this is causing me to becoming depressed and albeit that I fight to overcome the feeling, I am becoming afraid of my situation. Does anyone know of a support group on the West Rand where we meet to discuss our problems relating to gambling? Any words of advice will be appreciated.
HELLO, I AM SURE YOU CAN GOOGLE YOUR AREA, AND SUPPORT WILL BE A CLICK AWAY. YOU HAVE A PROBLEM, NOW IT'S TIME TO FIX IT. YOU ARE NOT ALONE, THERE ARE MILLIONS OUT THERE. SEEK HELP BEFORE IT IS LATE. TRY FINDING OTHERS WAYS TO PAMPER YOUR LACK OF COMPANIONSHIP. IF YOU ARE A FIGHTER, WHICH I KNOW YOU ARE, IT IS TIME TO COME OUT SWINGING....
Thanks so much for your words of encouragement. Today I already feel better having told a work colleague (whom I trust implicity) of my problem. She too gambles regularly but has the control which I lack. Getting this off my chest, I feel that I am 1/2 way there. I still need to find a group in my area for weekly / monthly meetings to keep me on the right path. My problem is always around pay day and usually feel confident during the month only to slip again at the end of the month. Have you overcome the problem?
Google GA meetings in your area and go to the next one you can! You are not alone, although you may feel that way. I just went to my first GA meeting on Tues and I'm so glad I did! You will meet people who jave had the exact struggles, thoughts and feelings as you...very eye opening! I have been gambling for the past 15 yrs myself. On the outside I look like a total sucess, husband 4 kids great career...reality is I have been sucessful but have given all of my money to the stupid casino. I have no savings, live check to check, totally on debt. On the bright side, I reconize I can not gamble at all now. Now is the time for us to look towards a bright future and not dwell on our past mistakes. Oh and by the way my husband has no idea and I'm not at the ppint that I can confide in him however, I have told my mom, sister and close friend. I've become. Junkie when it comes to gambling, thats the only way I could get them to understand how serious of a problem it is. Good luck and God bless you!
Thanks Suburban mom - will google now re meetings. You and I appear to be in exactly the same position other than the fact that I live alone. I too have no savings just debt and must say things are looking brighter since sharing my thoughts and secret gambling life with others on this site. How I wish that I could share my problem with my family like you do but I simply do not trust them to keep my secret and to fully support my efforts to stop. Have you now managed to control the urge to go to the casino? Good luck for you too during this difficult time and thanks for sharing. :)
Pleased to advise that I found group on Google and will be attending my first meeting next Thursday. Still feeling strong and confident after joining this site and you sharing your experience with me. Thanks again :)
GA meetings are very helpful. I have been clean from gambling for over 1 year. I first join a GA meeting in 2012. At first, I slowed down on my gambling and then went 1-3 months without gambling, finally - I have quit. I periodically go to my 'home' GA meetings. I have a good job, supportive family and friends, and have work on my own forgiveness of the wrongs that occur during the spiral out of control gambling addiction. Be strong, if necessary - get a GA Sponsor, and if you relapse - get right back into the GA meetings. You will find that the GA members don't just, they focus on support and their own gambling addiction challenges. Also, find a GA meeting that meets your needs - there are different formats (i.e., closed vs. open, study 12 steps, 1/2-read through GA book and 1/2 roundtable therapy/cross-talk, and non-cross talk. All good... stay strong and best to everyone.
My last posting to this thread - I meant to say "You will find that the GA members don't judge"
Thanks. I seriously appreciate you sharing your experience with me. I have unfortunately not yet been to a meeting as something came up but am planning for this week. I am however still in the correct frame of mind. Next week (pay day) is my trying time and when I will need all the strength that I can muster up. The friend that I have confided in about my problem is helping immensely. It was such a relief to finally tell someone “that I am not perfect”. This is another problem in that everyone always tells me how “strong” I am having overcome the hurdles that I have already faced in the last 15 years. Can’t wait to reach the milestone which you have already achieved. 1 year without gambling! Once again - thanks. Will advise after my meeting on Thursday