Hi, I am new to this. I am reluctant and scared. My husband wants us to move back by his family in Southern California from Wisconsin. I am worried since my doctors all say it is not a good idea and just not a person to take risk. The sun makes me physically ill. My depression is about as bad as it can get. I am afraid this move from everything I have always known would put my depression over the edge. Any advice.
Welcome here. Please talk w/hubby and/or have your doctor advise him & back you. Give him a list, make him aware as you can or your doctor that this disease can come on at any given moment & you need your resources close as possible when he's not home. Question - do you think hubby thinks his family would assist you better if moving to Ca.? Stay w/us more will chime in w/suggestions.
If the sun makes you physically Ill that should be a good reason to stay put. What are the list of reasons he, wants to move to Cal. Does he have a job in Wisconsin? Does he have a better job offer? Do you work currently? Do you have children who will also be affected by the move . Have you ever been to So. Cal? ( it is gorgeous, but lots of sun for sure). Is your husband the controlling sort. Is he the care giving kind? Is he selfish, or does he put your needs first? So many factors to think through before any permanent decision should be made. Perhaps a vacation to visit his family would give you both a better idea of which direction you should take. Good luck and force him to think it through with you. Hugs