Hi! I found out my husband cheated on me with a co worker in late March. I confronted him with this and he said it happened over a year ago. I found emails and posted notes that’s how I found out. I was doing something nice for him painting his office wow what a surprise right? After that I went into a down we’re spiral of depression and anxiety. I end up being hospitalized for 4 days and went through 6 weeks of therapy with no help from him. He apologized but he is in he’s on depression and want get help. He self medicate with alcohol and stays working all day and don’t get home till after 8 . I need some advice we still live together and I love him so much but I’m not trying to get myself back in a bad situation again . Help please
Welcome to the site. One thing is for a relationship to rebuild the betrayed has to feel safe here on out. Meaning they have to ( wayward spouse) become transparent.
I agree with @Kas1966. If both people truly want to repair the relationship and have a good counselor, then life after adultery is possible. I've seen several cases where the marriage is so much better, because both parties are now working on the marriage. Will he go to counseling with you?
I am so sorry you have been through so much, I agree with justamomof2, there a many relationships that have survived and actually thrived after an affair, but it takes work. I recently read the story of Al and Lisa Robinson, they are testament to this, but their story took work from both parties. Have you even mentioned counseling to your husband? Praying for you as you face this.
He was just going to hide it and hoped you never find out. He is not worth it.