Hi. I have breast cancer. Just finished chemo and getting ready for a double mastectomy in a few weeks. Nervous and frankly don't want to have my breast removed. I have 2 kids and an emotionally distant husband who becomes upset easily.
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We will put you in our prayers, so sorry that you and others face such a horrific future, please continue to get all the support to help you cope with what your dealing with.........GB HUGS, JOAN
Thank you for the prayers. I do have great friends. Hoping to get to the other side of this and help others.
@Crazedwife, You can… by sharing with those that have gone through the same thing. Please keep us up to date and remember always, it’s what’s inside that counts …hugs, Joan
Thanks for the support
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I'm another breast cancer person. Hello everyone & hug to your precious hearts. I've found that every woman has her own way of dealing with this & mine was to immerse myself in books (like about 35 of them). While one absolutely stood out more (for me) I noticed some obvious things that aren't even being mentioned here. Did you know that certain personality types get breast cancer FAR more than others? Did you know it's the "nurturers"? True. All six doctors told me I needed to forgive, too. What was that about, I thought. Oh, my SELF! I wasn't good enough (yep, that was my mindset at the time of diagnosis). I was never number 1 on the list of people to care for....never. I was other people's nurturer, maid, cleaning woman, cook, shopper, never making enough money, laundry, homemaker, hostess, caterer , taking care of things that could never be all finished. No one took care of me. No wonder I'd gained weight! I needed protection, I was tired & needed food, I needed someone who'd bubble over with gratitude that I was gold to them! We are precious human beings, one of a kind creations. This is a time to p
Learn to let go of everything. Just let go. From now on, no one gets priority over us first. Only then do we have the right to care for others. God made us just as important as anyone else. Exception with kids (of course).
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@Ziggy3339 I agree with all that you said and definitely saw myself. It is difficult.
I did write a reply but I do not know where it is.
Oh, I wish you speedy healing. Only a few months after my partial mastectomy my husband was ready to have this all be over with. He demanded even to get a written letter from my surgeon stating when he could expect that. The doctor looked at him calmly and replied, "Oh, you meant those stabbing pains she has in her breast?" He answered, well, yes." She responded, "That can take months...or even years." He said nothing more. I'll always be grateful to this doctor for that. My husband apparently thought this was like his MOHS surgery on his skin where he's back to work next day. Or that I was faking it to be lazy with chores, I don't know. In any case, it's been the hardest thing (for myself) to reposition myself to top priority every day with self care. Breast cancer brought me to my knees but yes, without that diagnosis I'd probably not have had found strength or courage to make all these changes. Things to insure this won't happen again. Crazed wife, I'm so happy you're nearing the finish line...or at least this far along! Congrats on making it this far! You must have a TON of "pearls of wisdom" from your own personal experiences with this. Appreciate your post. God bless your good heart.
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God bless that doctor who advocated to your husband on your behalf. My husband has been more supportive as of late. I think I have tried to be more supportive to him as well as he has degenerative arthritis and has dealt with chronic pain the last 6 years. I have a better understanding now. I guess I got frustrated with him earlier in my cancer journey as I just wanted it to be about me for a minute but hopefully the last month we are both showing more compassion.
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