Hi....I'm dying inside. My ex of nearly a year came home late Tuesday morning, from work, cause he took himself off the lease, quit his job, and walked out just like that. Meanwhile...all he did was rubbed my arm...called me honey for everything....and wanted to be together all the time....which I loved also. He couldn't take my nagging anymore about personal hygiene issues he had....and dropping crumbs all over the floor making a mess for me. He also took me off facebook yesterday, cause he said he didn't want me to see posts he knew would make me upset...like....how he took his ex-fiance to the movies saturday and out to eat afterwards, as I scraped up change for two weeks for toilet paper! He then called and asked if I needed to go shopping when I got my check this week. Someone please help me understand. I am still shaking my head over the whole thing.....and terribly upset :(
There might not be anything to understand. He sounds like he has issues to work on. If he's not reaching out for help, I am afraid there isn't much you can do. I would be alarmed about the lying to be honest.
@Anas76 I agree, we just can’t control people so it makes it so hard when you feel like their choices aren’t right or you simply don’t understand. Taking time to get your feelings in order will be important so you can make smart choices and not ones based off hurt feelings.
I appreciate your feedback. I'm just so upset and confused, and all I've been doing is crying my eyes out....but thanks :)
@ursiegirl
You and me too. Me cause I am moving on from what I thought was the love of my life. And you? Do you think he wants to get back together?
Are you divorced? What do you make of his behavior? Seems like a lot of mixed messages. Sounds like he thinks you are the reason for his behavior. If so, tell him that you want him to put on a dress and lipstick for you so you can take a photo and post it on facebook. If he refuses then that is proof that you cannot "make" anybody "do" anything. They choose their own behavior.
@Todayisanewday I was actually not married to him. There were a lot of mixed messages…I had no idea anything was wrong
That's okay to cry. We are here for you. Share whatever you feel like sharing. My wife "discarded" me like I was nothing after 14 years (7 married). I am barely getting out of the crying phase.
@Anas76
Thanks. I know. I am glad I can cry. I am the one that wants out of the marriage of 6 months. The man is not what I thought. How are you moving on? How did you get through having to live with the soon to be ex until you could separate?
Living with my ex was hell as she is a narc. I had a lot of work and she "moved out" to the couch saying it's over and she is moving out as soon as she finds a job. She hurt me so bad during that fight, I just couldn't deal with her anymore. I knew she wouldn't understand that she hurt me, so I just kept to "my side" of the apartment. A few weeks after, she became extra abusive and violent without provocation (I swear, I have it recorded) and I had to get the police to move out. It's been very hard and I have been having regular anxiety attacks. SG helps me a lot. I don't know your situation, so it may or may not be the same.
@Anas76 Im sorry…it is soooo hard. I did not have it like that this time around, but my first relationship was a horror for 16 years…that first relationship turned out to be domestic violence., and I wound up going to a shelter with my son who was 2 yrs old at the time. I had regular anxiety attacks…and nearly a nervous breakdown…but what I can tell you is…it does get better with time…after it’s all over and done with unfortunately
Yeah...he just moved out just like that....When I first met him...he told me I had to deal with him taking his ex fiance to the movies on saturdays...just because they remained good friends...I gave him his choice b4 we moved in together...her or me! He chose me....but after leaving on Tuesday.....he got in touch with her and saturday they went out. He took me off facebook he said cause he didn't want me to see posts that would hurt me. He does not want to hang out, but called yesterday asking me if I needed anything from the store when I got my check this week.
Thanks, but don't worry about me. Just wanted you to know where I come from as I know it would be hard for you to trust, especially a strange man on an online site. Let's focus back on you. Keep venting please. People here DO understand and DO help.
Thanks.......I don't know how I stumbled upon this site, but I"'m so glad I did. It is nice to talk to someone at the time you're feeling down....and not have to wait for emails and stuff.....days later :)
@ursiegirl welcome! And we are found support groups. It is a great place to work out feelings. And just vent 
Feel free to "support me". This will allow you to send me private messages to make sure you can reach me at (almost) any time. You will probably want to do the same with others you feel comfortable with on SG.
@Anas76 How do I support you? It is taking me forever to find my messages lol
Click on my image (the pineapple), the click Support Me, then Send.
Did I do the right thing with the support?
I think you did as I got an email, but I can't message you yet. I think it takes a few mins for SG to update.