Hi, I'm new here. Recently diagnosed in November of 2014. I

Hi, I'm new here. Recently diagnosed in November of 2014. I think I've been dealing with this quite well, but a big part of me just wants to talk to others in the same situation as me. Anyone wanna talk it out?

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Yes please , how are you coping? have you mentioned it and has there been any discrimination?

I think I have come to terms and accepted it. Only person who knows is my gf of almost 4 years. She's been tested and luckily came out clean. I must have contracted it from a prior partner that didn't know they had it.

I found out I had it while I was pregnant. But baby doesn't have it, and we are pregnant again. My husband doesn't have it either but married me even tho I had it and he didn't. I've accepted it very well, I mean it is my fault. I could have been more safe but I didnt. Its hard sometimes but then I remember how much Jesus has blessed me regardless of this disease. I've never never been more happy and healthy in my life and I'm HIV positive.

The whole turning my life to God has been the best decision I ever made, I know its not a lot of people's cup of tea but for me I am truly happy with my life now. Not trying to force religion lol just my opinion

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I'm atheist. No need for any kind of god or religion to be happy, or feel good about yourself.

For me there is. That's what my whole life turned around for the better. Everyone has a belief and I respect yours its your right to choose your belief.

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Hi Han Solo, how are you doin?

I'm doing alright. How about yourself?

I am good. We actually got diagnosed the same time. I got the news like first week of Nov of 2014. I was in-denial for a awhile but got over it and seek treatment. I am now on my 4th month of meds. It is harder I guess emotionally than physically. The worst thing is worruing too much for little things like a pimple, minor pains or cold. It feels like it will always gets more complicated because of the virus. Well, I am undetectable at the moment and hopefully will stay that way.

I'm on my 3rd month of meds and should be undetectable by next month, if not already. I caught pneumonia at the begining of last month and was in the hospital for 2 weeks. I'm all good now. It's hard dealing with the emotional and psychological aspects of it with my girlfriend. We haven't had any sexual contact since October. We don't even talk about sex and I don't try to initiate anything at all. She turned me down 2 times when I tried to do a lil finger play and that hurt me like hell. This past weekend was the first time since October that we did anything sexual. Hopefully this fun we had with eachother with our hands will keep opening up a healthier sexual relationship together again. I showed her the video of the hiv+ father with a wife and 3 kids who are negative , from a news report in Phoenix Arizona, an example of how things could be in our future.

I have HIV and my husband doesn't. We have a baby and another on the way and our baby is healthy and negative. The meds are the most important thing and keeping up on your health. Most doctors say protection of course but obviously me being pregnant shows there was no protection. So my belief is as long as your undetectable and safe with your partner they will be fine. Ivce had it for a year now probably longer just didn't find out til a year ago, and my husband still tests negative. He gets tested every 3 months.

@ Taylor do you and your ever use condoms?

Do you and your husband

No because I take Truvada and I'm undetectable so my doctor said its a very low risk since truvada helps prevent spreading it and my husband doesn't want to use them anyways. But until you are undetectable you should still use condoms. Well even then I'd say if your comfortable using them use them its just my husband isn't. But my doctor says its fine. You should ask about Truvada tho.

I take Complera. I heard of truvada though. We plan on using condoms until we want to have kids. I just want to know what to expect and look into when we are ready in our future.

Well its very possible to have a family. Good luck to you both, its not a death sentence anymore its very manageable now a days, hopefully one day they find a cure but even with the meds they have now I've seen people live with it for 18years perfectly healthy.

Have you seen this?

http://www.12news.com/story/news/local/valley/2015/05/15/valley-man-hiv-positive-entire-family-negative/27350861/

See that's hope right there too. (:

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There is also has been a study that undetactable people has zero transmission with their partners. There were a bug number of sampling and no transmission was recorded.

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