Hi. I'm new to this online support group thing but I can't s

Physical Health Chronic Illnesses & Conditions
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Hi. I'm new to this online support group thing but I can't seem to find a local support group in my area. My husband was diagnosed with End Stage Cirrhosis at the end of January caused by alcohol. He quit drinking cold turkey for 1 month and then pretty much gave up and started drinking secretly. Of course I eventually found out but it was after he had been drinking for a month. My question is, What am I supposed to do? How can I help him get through this difficult time? He doesn't want outside help (AA or counseling). I've asked his doctor, nurse and a close doctor friend of mine and no one has been able to suggest techniques; rather they tell me to make sure I take care of myself. I get that but I feel like there is something I should be able to do to help him.

I look forward to hearing from anyone who has had to deal with this. I know I can't be the only one.

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Elaine You cannot help someone who does not want help. You can scream, threaten and cry but as long as he is going to continue drinking and sneaking it there is not much you can do. It appears he does not want help. ALF Inspire is a great support group filled with a lot of good people you can try there also. I wish I could tell you how to handle it but cannot s and no matter what you try it is not going to work unless he wants it to. You could go to AAA yourself and or your local church but other then that you cannot change him .Like your friends told you, make sure you take care of yourself