Hi there. I’ve been struggling with porn addiction over th

Hi there. I’ve been struggling with porn addiction over the past few years. I didn’t want to accept the possibility of having a genuine addiction for a long time. But it has greatly affected my sex life and relationships I have with women. It’s gotten to a point where I watch porn several times a day, and it’s even made an impact on my finances. I have way too much free time and I can’t overcome the urge to just watch porn and relieve myself. I’ve tried taking a break but those breaks usually don’t last longer than a week. Then I’m back to square one. I workout a lot and I don’t really have much friends so it’s hard for me to find other things to do. Any advice, or help anybody can give? Am I able to cure this addiction on my own? Or should I seek counseling for help?

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Welcome to the club I have been addicted to porn for 26 years it has greatly affected me especially with relationships it’s a never ending struggle

Welcome to the group. I recommend you look for a 12 step support group, maybe counseling to help yourself. I think the more help you seek, the more ways and support you get.

Abe, okay.... free time? Get rid of it. Find or create a hobby. Specially a social hobby. Craigslist has an area, You'll have to find it. Where people are looking for like minded individuals to do things with. A quick list of MY hobbies. I live alone but have a girlfriend and we choose to live separately. So it makes dating more special. Anyway, we like to hike with our dogs. I do metal detecting and prospecting. I collect coins, stamps and foreign paper money. I look for and dig up old bottles from mostly the 1800s. I collect Civil War Memorabilia. I camp and fish and pan for gold.
So.... what do YOU like to do. Or what did you like. Or what would you like to try? Stay away from paying for anything sexual/pornographic. If you feel they need to satisfy yourself. Do it without porn, just your own fantasies. Work on it. And let us know what's going on.

@constructionjim I appreciate the advice. I’m not a really social person so working on that is a whole other struggle on its own. Idk y I’m having a hard time finding other things to do. Like I said I already workout a lot and I don’t necessarily have any more money to spend. Seems like no matter what activities I would try getting into, they cost money. Im not really sure what to do with the rest of my life. I hate thinking about it.

@Abe22 Are outdoor activities an option in your area? I have found hiking to be helpful, relatively inexpensive and a good way to spend time alone.

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Good for you Isaiah, hiking IS a good healthy thing to do. Physically and mentally it helps and it only costs whatever gas you use. I have two dogs, so it gets them out too. I think it clears your head and allows you to enjoy nature and be at peace.

@Abe22 Is faith something you are open to? Getting God's help? Seeking a relationship with God is like a treasure hunt but that depends on whether you can look at it that way. The way your life goes is all about the way you think. So, one way or the other, a change of mind can set you on a different path and bring you to a new life that is not like your life is now. Remark that I have said nothing about having some amount of "will power" to bring change, but having a change of mind is something you are capable of. Realize that whatever you are doing that you are addicted to has taken over your mind, so freedom is found in taking your mind back from what is ruinous to you. Regardless of an addiction's promise to give you something "good" that is always worth going after, the truth remains that you are in a cycle of believing a lie after a lie. You need truth to snap out of that cycle. It may start with aligning your behavior with whether you definitely regard something like porn watching as "not good." If your mindset is that you want to and will stop doing what is "not good," you are in the best place to get help from God to remove you from the trap of the addiction once and for all. That is my personal experience, but if you are open to find out more, I am giving you work to do as I can't guarantee another reply. May your work be fruitful if you decide to undertake it. I wish you all the best.

@YesToTheTruth First, I want to apologize for taking long to respond. I have been trying to keep myself busy and off of the internet to avoid pornography. Growing up, I have been starting to lose my faith in God. However, I am still open to having a relationship with him and regain my faith because I know I need help. It is just really hard to avoid porn because I feel deprived from having relationships with women and people in general. I did decide to seek counseling and try to improve my people skills as best I can. My mind can be in really dark places at times, and the only thing that can relieve my stress is indulging into my addictions. Such as porn, alcohol, or smoking. These are my very unhealthy habits, and I am slowly trying to come up with new healthy ones. Any advice on how to stay on the path of good and good health is extremely appreciated.