Um I am new here but my therapist told me to j a oin a support group so I did...
Um well basicly my story is I am 14 and last month I was raped in a parking lot by a stranger. After that... um... well I tried to kill myself... I failed... but now I am a cutter... and I am scared because I think I saw the guy who raped me at my school today and iam so scared... the only ppl I have told about the rape are my therapist and you all. I am scaared and I feel cornered... I don't wanna tell any one about the rape but I don't know what to do now... . Canany body help me?
Do not be scared, but talk to your therapist about what you saw, and ask the therapist to guide you in this situation. Also, say a prayer when you can and ask God to be always with you. Be safe and God bless you always.
Hi Cutter, welcome to Support Groups! Thank you so much for being here with us. I am so very sorry for what you went through and continue to go through. I am just so happy that you are seeing a therapist to help you work through everything. Would you mind my asking why you wouldn't want anyone to know about what this person did to you, because he deserves to be behind bars?
I know that you are going to make it through this and come out so much stronger on the other end of it. Please know that I am here to help you in any way that I can. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Thx for the advice. And I don't want to tell any body because I don't want to lose them. I can't tell my mom or my boyfriend or any of my other freinds, because, what if they start hatting me because of It? I am just scared. Thank you for the advice, and I do talk to my therapist all the time. Thank you for your help, it means a lot to know someone is there that knows how I feel.
i was raped last yr, and aside for 2 of my closest friends, no one knows what happened. Its been almost a yr (may 16) and i havent told my parents, or anyone in my family. I know how hard it is to talk about, I cant describe the hurt and pain i went thru. I cut all the time to try to escape from it, but the pain is where it is until i can find the courage within me to move on.
Your therapist is right- it was smart of u to join a support group. were all in simular hellholes and here to support each other. Im here for u and i believe in u, u can message me anytime.
Hazel eyes, I am so very sorry for what happened to you. Please know that you are never alone, we are always here for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Cutter, I've been where you are. I understand the fear it almost seems alive at times. I was assaulted when I was 15 by a guy I was "dating". I know about not wanting to tell anyone, being afraid of the judgement. I also know about the cutting aspect of it, because when I felt like everything in my body was just pain, I would do whatever I could to make it stop.
Keep talking to your therapist, and think about telling the people who love you. They are where you will find your feet again. People get angry right away when they find out something has happened to a person they love. Not all of my friends or family were supportive, but the ones who were...are still here and I'm a 37 year old mother of one.
You can rebuild yourself from this, I know you can. The hardest things to remember are:
YOU DID NOTHING WRONG
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
It was very hard for me to even believe those and I still have to remind myself from time to time. Another good place to go for support is http://www.aftersilence.org. I am there as well, there are many of us, we are not alone!! You are in my thoughts and prayers. You can message me if you need or want to.
I feel you. I also started cutting afterward. If you can find the courage to tell you may find they will surprise you. You family loves you when they know the pain you went through they can support you in your recovery. I never told and I regret that I never did. I did not have the support I needed until I was able to talk about to some people after college. My family still does not know and after 20+ years I will not tell them it is too ingrained to hold that information from them.
It took me from my teens till I was almost 40 to stop cutting cause I didn't have the support I needed. I am very very glad that you are getting support. I hope that you may one day find yourself comfortable enough to get more support by talking to your family with the help of your therapist when you are ready.
Your story struck a chord with me, as I was raped when I was your age (I'm almost 16 now) and I'd been self harming for years before that. I was raped a few weeks after coming out of hospital after overdosing on paracetamol. Take my advice, don't do that, it hurts! I'm so glad you're seeing a therapist, as you definitely need to let your feelings out (I didn't until very recently, it just makes it worse), but you do need to tell a family member. You need the support.
Sorry, I'm on my phone and it only allows me five hundred or so characters each time. As I was saying. When it happened to me, I was in foster care, and I didn't have the chance to tell my parents. Now I'm living with my dad, and though I've hinted at it, I can never come out with it. Your mother will not hate you. Nor will she blame you, or say you must have asked for it. (People sometimes react like that, I'm not sure why) You're mother will always be there. I hope you can tell someone. Good luck. xx
I am so sorry to hear about what happened to you. I honestly don't have any advice. I wish I could just give you a hug. My 15 year old daughter is going through something and I really can't help her right now. But you are in my prayers.
I am so very sorry that this happened to you. You did nothing wrong! Do not be ashamed of something you had no control over. Tallking does seem to help. I'm 36 now,please, don't let it take you as long as it has me.
They are all right. You did nothing wrong. If you want the power over your life back though, You need to tell your councelor. If necissary tell the school councelor. You are worth so much. No one has the right to touch you without your permission. what he did, had nothing to do with you as a person. It had to do with power. He took it away from you. You did not give it. More than likely, this guy will keep on hurting girls until someone stops him. Pray, ask God to give you the answer. Then, listen. If you recognize the guy at school again, tell the school councelor.