oh the holidays… i know this is a time of joy and ia m lucky cause for the most party this month has been busy and fun. but then its christmas and new years and i dread them cause i remember how very very very single i am. i want to be excited for new years, and i have fun plans with friends, but most will be couples and i secretly get sad when i see them all together knowing i’m on my own again. wish i could not feel this way, and hopefully one day i won’t.
Yeah I know how you are feeling, I think. I get bummed out when I'm around my friends that are couples. This will be the first Christmas and new years being single and its rather tough for me. Oh I'm trying not to think about it but its approaching. How do you okan on spendnig it?
I also know how you feel for I'm tired of being single, but what am I suppose to do? I'm shy, not attractive! Who would want to be with me?
thanks for understanding both of you.
LamentCa - i am spending new years with a bunch of friends, a mix of couples and some singles. its a small group at a friends house so it will be low key. i know it will be fun, and i am looking forward to it, but there is still a small part of me that is sad i won't have anyone to kiss at midnight. i need to let go of that and jusst enjoy the time with friends.
mici mouse - don't say you are not attractive, find confidence in yourself and let the best part of you shine with people, you will see how attractive you can be.
i try not to make to many "woe is me posts" cause i want to be positive and look foward and know i will meet someone. but i'm letting this post be my moment that i can be down, and will now try to find the good things around. thanks to both of you for listening.
Victoria do enjoy bringing in the new year w/friends will be uplifting forsure.
Take care of you.
April
thanks april! trying really hard to change my attitude and make it a positive one. i know its easy to get into a grumpy mood about things, so i am going to keep a good outlook on it and know i will have fun. thanks for listening!
You've gotta get in line for the grumpy mood for I live w/the Grinch.....I'll trade places with you??????
teehee, take care friend.
April
Victoria1981, I totally understand that it's a tougher time of year for most of us, but I continue to look ahead to an amazing new year that is upon us full of so much potential. Though, this year is not over yet ;-)
I went on a marathon of holiday parties and even traveled for business over the past few weeks, so I haven't had much time to think about life on the whole, though it all set in once I hopped off the holiday party train. The next couple of weeks will be all about focusing on family, health and well-being. I'm trying to make these 2 weeks as positive, reflective, and spiritual as possible so that I exit this year and enter the new year with a brilliant attitude.
I too am keeping my New Years Eve very low-key with a close friend and am beyond thrilled to keep it at home and mellow with her. For me, it's all about setting the stage for the new year and I won't let anything or anyone get me down. It's ok for you to feel a bit saddened, but try to turn your energy around and focus on all that you are grateful for now and all that you wish for in the coming year. I know that you will have so much love and fulfillment in a new loving relationship. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
april- you crack me up as always!
puppy - thanks for your words, i really appreciate it.
Of course Victoria1981! I know that you'll get through this period with flying colors, but it's really great that you allowed yourself to feel these things and dealt with them head on rather than suppressing them and allowing them to come out in other ways.
puppy - i did let myself have a pity party and talked to a couple of close friends about it too. i saw that allowing myself to feel this sadness and giving myself this time actually makes me feel better now (if that makes sense). now i do feel happy and am looking forward to the new year. i think it helps to let feelings out rather than supress them, but i also realize that i can’t stay in a state of woe forever i do need to move forward.
That's so fantastic! I am so happy to hear that you are feeling better. I couldn't agree with you more; allowing yourself to feel emotions and go through the motions of working through them is essential and so beneficial for the long-term. It's a short-term trade-off for the long-term good of your overall well-being. It's so great that you have close friends who you can turn to, you are blessed. Keep up your wonderfully positive outlook and attitude. And, please keep sharing with us, we are here to support you in any way that we can.