How am I? Dead. Empty. About to break. I'm so clingy and needy I push everyone away including my ex of 5 years who I have a 1.5 year old daughter with. All we do is fight still because I can't let go of him and I want so badly to fix the broken pieces and put my family to gather. I just want to give up right now I'm so broken. How can I stop being so needy and clingy? To be able to let the past go and just be happy. I'm tired of pissing people off and pushing them away :'(
@liz...Sorry you are having a bad spell. You obviously know what you are doing now look at what the pay off is for doing that. What do you get from acting like your describing? You are resorting to a learned behavior, one that used to work for you and now doesn't. When we are upset and our routine we are familiar with is changed we fall back to our old ways of dealing with things. You need to learn how to deal with these emotions in a healthy way. Are you familiar with DBT treatment? You can order self help books on Amazon to help you learn the skills or there are classes online to teach them to you for a fee. However you choose to do it this is what will help you to better deal with your issues. Hope it works for you! Keep us posted!
DBT?
@liz5190 Yup The workbook I have is called “The Dialectal Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook” Practical DBT Exercises for learning mindfulness, interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & Distress Tolerance. It is excellent for you to work on the skills by yourself. I got mine at Amazon! Keep us posted!
Thanx I'll give it a shot