I’m a shopping addict. I have an addictive personality. I’ve been addicted to Sex, Porn, Alcohol, Food, and now shopping. if I keep this up, I’m going to lose my husband. I’ve spent 30,000 in 6 months. I’ve now put us in a bind now we have no money to fix our only car or buy a used or new one. I feel ashamed. I don’t even remember most of the things I purchased. They just showed up. Now I 'm angry because the things I bought didn’t even make me happy like I needed them too. I’m wanting to go inpatient or an online program but as you probably guessed it, we don’t have money for that. I don’t know if doing a 12-step program is going to work. I found Recoveries Anonymous. They’re solution based which I’m all about. I’m not like let’s just use God as a crutch. However, I’ve talked with my husband about “how do I become accountable for my actions?” I don’t still even know??? He says I need to set my own routine and show up for myself. and be accountable to myself before others. How do I become accountable and have self-control??
i think the Recoveries Anonumous or similar program is what you need. its one thing to say you want to be accoutnable but you actually need people to HOLD you accountable. plus they offer support. i think it will be an excellent thing for you to do if you can
Thanks so much for responding 
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this! I’m a journalist researching this topic (I posted here recently) and from what I’ve found your story is all too common among people with this issue. Would you be willing to chat with me about your situation? It would be 100% anonymously, of course, and perhaps being a part of the story would be one way to approach accountability. You can respond here about what works for you or email me: [email protected]. Thanks!
I am new to this site. How does it work? Do you know of an online chat group for shopping addiction or spenders?
well this is an online support group but its not very active. try facebook. or try googling it, perhaps there is an in-person group you could go to.