How do I know if my partner is a narcissist?
Oh boy, well I know all about this one. My mother is one. Everything is about them- everything. They put guilt trips on you- make you feel bad-they tell lies to get what they want- they're very manipulative- if they don't get what they want they will have a hissy fit- they make you feel bad about yourself- they make you rely on them for everything- therefore they won't give you the right tools to learn things so you need to lean on them for support, you always need to put them first no matter what, they brainwash you into thinking that you do not come first, like you don't matter. They treat you differently around others and when your with him alone he's a different person completely- for instance, around his friends or family he will put on a show and show everyone he's wonderful and loving. But behind closed doors is when his true colors show. It's not pretty. They put you down when you succeed- they get jealous of your accomplishments and they try to out-do you, they mock you, they think of you as an extension of themselves and not their own person like they own you, they take away your self esteem- that's out the window. They will do anything to get what they want even if it means they hurt you or someone else emotionally because to them only their emotions matter. They harrass you- won't leave you alone when you tell them to, they know no boundaries- when you made them they always ale you think they're going to follow through but they never do, they get personal information out of you any way possible even if it means that they go behind your back to get it. They get people in the family or friends to go against you so you are alienated. (Because they believe their lies) they will embaress you in public for their entertainment, they cover up all their lies because they tell too many. Oh lord I could go on and on......trust me I've lived it so I'm here for you
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@Linds and @Yellowrose10 Ty. Yes she is. Sadly not my first one. Pretty sure my mother was too, so I might be pre-disposed to have that kind of relationship. I will look at the lucyrising site. Thank you both for your insight & suggestions. I really don't want to go through this again (if I can ever get away from the current one).
@crumpledwing remember that you have the power to get out of the relationship.
Yes the creater is amazing, and I feel like it's a blessing to so many people who need help with this kind of abuse
Not really. My family have done all that they can financially (both my sister & brother are in difficult finances currently). My few friends are in another state, and are only casual friends. It's a good thought, just not a resource that I have. However, this Sunday I thought I would visit a church in the area. We only moved here recently, and I haven't made any friends here, so maybe I can at church. Even just having someone to talk with will be nice, which is why I was so glad to find this site today.