He is gotten worse. He don't believe in counceling or talking to a shrink like I do. He has anger issues bad and somehow they are my fault. I don't know how that happened. What do I do?
I can just offer you my two cents. I am not sure if what I am saying is the right thing to do or not.
If he won't go to counseling and his anger is affecting your marriage, your friends and your family then he needs to know what it is he is doing.
If he still refuses, then you have to look at getting tough with him. He might not respond well to this but you have to do what you have to do for your own mental health.
If it were me and say my ex wife (which did happen) ... tell him that he goes to a therapist or you will, as in divorce.
Hopefully, someone else out there has other options for you. This is all I can think of and have done myself. And, no, it didn't work for me. My wife and I ended up breaking up. However, I am soooo MUCH HAPPIER NOW. :)
Good luck.