so im getting married in june and im already getting cold feet. little things are getting to me. im wondering if this is the right decision. or what if there is someone out there better for me. we already act like an old married couple. other things have stopped happening. how do i know if he is the one?
Hello there! I am so sorry that you are experiencing cold feet, though I think that it's so normal. How long have you been feeling this way and was there something in particular that is making you feel this way? I found these links for you and think that they may give you a bit of insight;
http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-problems/articles/de...
http://www.lifescript.com/Life/Relationships/Marriage/Are_You_Suffering_...
I know that you will get through this, please know that I am here to help you in any way that I can.
well for about a week. just little things he says or does makes me mad. the issue with his female best friend still bugs me. and one day we were waiting for her and he was pacing. i guess she got lost and he wanted to go find her. and the way he defends her when i bring up the issue with her. and i feel like we're an old married couple bc the sex is dying down. and partly bc im bored with the same thing over and over. and then there's still the guy in another state that u still talk to that i still like. and i can tell this guy anything.
How are you feeling about this other guy? Do you have serious feelings for him? If so, then it's worth re-evaluating your relationship with your fiance. And in regard to his good female friend, it's important to remember that he is with you for a reason, because he loves you very much. Otherwise, he would be with her.
Cold feet is one thing. Both of you thinking about other partners, and the sex already dying down? That's quite another.
I thnk at this point it could be very helpful to talk to a professional, be it a religious officiant or a counselor.
well i had a serious talk with his female friend and it went well. i actuallu found out that she has been with her bf for like 8 years and they are trying to have a baby. and she reassured me that her and my fiance are just friends. then i had a serious talk with my fiance about us. and he apologized for some things and he promised to work on them. as for the sex we are looking for ways to make it better. he said he's commited to making us work. so all in all i feel better. thanks everyone for the support.
Hello crazygurl, I just wanted to let you know that I have been with my BF since the beginning of high school for almost 10 years and I have felt like we are an old married couple for more than half of it and we've gone through many phases: having sex 2 in a year having it 2 in one day everyday (sorry for tmi). I just wanted to let you know that phases are normal and I learned that it doesn't mean we don't love each other. We just have to decide to stay together everytime it gets tough and sometimes we had to try hard just to be civil. But with patience and hard work it has always worked out. I just wanted to let you know that while I haven't dealt with marriage, I feel like I know what you are going through and I believe it's ok and you guys will get through this :)
Crazygurl, thanks so much for the fantastic update, I am so thrilled to hear that you got so many things cleared up with his female friend and with him. I know that you two are on your way to marital bliss. If you can make it through these moments, then you can make it through most anything. I do believe that it's these moments that make you stronger and stronger. Please keep sharing with us and let us know how things are progressing for you.
thank you me- as i am. what you said makes me happy. i know we'll have many ups and downs. and getting thru this bump makes me feel better. im happy to be able to talk to other women who have gone thru similar situations. and am grateful for this site.
I am so happy to hear that my comment could make you smile. My boyfriend always tells me that it's the ups that get him through the downs and my aunt always tells me that it is the downs that make make up sex so friggin great ;)
Me, you made me giggle out loud, thank you for that. Good lesson for me....it's okay to have the down moments, it's a part of life, and makes the making up oh so good ;-)
lol me thats funny. that made me laugh.
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