How do you live with your partner after emotional cheating

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Hi there! I'm new to this site want to mention that reading people's opinions on things,their experiences and what they did or are doing to live happily now has helped.Has anyone ever detached from a lover,partner,husband,wife thinking that the person would be there for you no matter what? Or did one partner drink or use drugs which pushed you away or you were the one who numbed yourself as a way of dealing,which in turn...pushed your loved one away?
Well, I did the latter...I was in love with my boyfriend of two years..He was in love with me and our anniversary is coming up on MONDAY( 2 years since he grabbed me and first said," I LOVE YOU". So, naturally,I'm on edge . Going to meetings when I can, sorting through stuff,(we live together)and everyone is telling me to get out...Except for him.
He started seeing someone after the methadone I was on made me so numb (after about 5 months,I grew tolerant...so sex drive diminished,cooking dinner less,loving affection or interest...less and less..) He told me LAST week and I think I know who it is...someone he sees everyday in his work building. But, when I got off of methadone in Feb. 7th ...it was hell...for both him and me. Yet, he did the best he could..He said that he is "worn out" and has fallen out of love.I believe that.
Maybe I have too. But you see, I went back on methadone and finally gave it up a month ago and have been building my life back ever since! I feel and look better than ever..(except for heartache and confusion),so I feel like there may be a chance. I told him that I "emotionally cheated" with someone I met from A.A. thinking that was the right thing to do.Mind you, this was when I was back on methadone for a while last May..2010.I think that I wanted him to know that I would tell him from now on when temptation arose and after that ...we acted like friends..No benefits...Just "us"...Now, we sleep in different bedrooms,he doesn't tell me what he's doing...well, everything and won't stick around to see the TRUE person I am.I feel crippled and I know i was selfish.

I wrote way too much!!! Anyone relate?

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hey

welcome and i for one dont think u wrote too much, it was easy to follow and keep up with the story, and im glad u are doing so well keeping up meetings etc and finding u again.

i wouldnt worry about what others are saying at the moment if your living arrangements suit u both at present time,

my advice take one day at a time and see how u go but please keep posting and chattin,

as always

loving thoughts and positive vibes

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Hi Fit2btidy, welcome to Support Groups and thank you for sharing your story with us. Please write and share as much as you would like, as it helps you get everything out there and helps us to better understand so that we can support you in any way that we can. I think that you are on the right path by going to your meetings. Maybe sleeping in different bedrooms is what your relationship needs right now, at least you two are still under the same roof. Take baby steps to getting both yourself and your relationship to the right place. I know that you will find so much happiness and fulfillment....keeping looking ahead to a bright and beautiful future. And, please keep sharing with us.