How many of you are going through this with a partner? What are your thoughts and experiences in regards to how OCD has affected both you and your relationship with them? Did you tell them about it, or plan on telling them? I'm just interested to see how people going through a similar experience like myself deal with and feel about this whole problem.
Yeah. Ive been with my BF for 3 years now and I just found about that OCD is more than just wanting everything clean all the time. Im trying to find a specialist to help me. But anyway if this is OCD which i feel that it is cause ive had other obsessions in my life but then again who knows; It has affected my relationship so much in a bad way. but it has gotten much better after I explained it to my boyfriend and he's really supportive.
@anxietyohthefun In what way did it affect you guys?
(RPCD) i was so confused on whether or not i loved him ( I do) and if affected the HOCD side, where I thought I was for sure a lesbian which made me lose my attraction to guys. Which of course worsened everything. He still turned me on all the time but I just thought so much during sex that I didnt end up enjoying it. Right now were in a bad place because his depression is bad and so is mine. Were still together though. Anyway im trying to "accept" these thoughts and hopfully they'll go away soon.
In my opinion ROCD is just a classification of HOCD or OCD itself. All themes aside, I can completly relate. Sometimes when I am doing especially badly I don't want anything to do with my gf. I have to stop myself, be calm and really think about how things used to be. Most of the time I am capable in finding happiness in the small remainder of thoughts I have from back when life was good. It's especially hurtful to wake up in the morning and not want to be near them, I am often fearful of my gf and I don't even know why, naturally my mind jots it down as me being gay (lol). For real though it is extremely painful to have gone from the happiest man alive to not feeling a thing for the woman you'd have once considered marrying. This illness is the worst and not a day goes by I wish I couldn't travel back in time and stop it.
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Im with my boyfriend and eveything i do with him is like a test.
I havent told him, only that i get anxiety but he doesnt know
And its affecting him because i want him to dress really nice so that i feel attraction (which im always scared i dont feel) and hes like is that the only way you like me?
Idk everything is just messed up
@HurdleGirl99 I really do think that you should speak with him about it. The fact he is concerned about you only liking him fictitiously only strengthens the need. From what it sounds he knows something is up so why not? I know as a dude it frustrates me no end when I can tell my gf has an issue with something but doesn’t talk to me about it. Are you worried that he will reject you, or not accept something? Keep in mind that you are still you and that nothing can change that. Let me know what you think =)
I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years. And honestly I can say that for the first 2.5 years of our relationship I was the happiest I have ever been in my life. And then about five or six months ago HOCD hit. Before this I had only had OCD with like perfectionism. But since having this theme of OCD I realized that I've always been an anxious and obsessive person this has just been the first time it has made me feel really crazy and driven me into depression. But I knew pretty soon after beginning to date my boyfriend, like within a few dates that I was falling in love with him, and in 2013 we had to do a long distance relationship which was hard but we made it. Of all the things we've faced together this is the hardest. He knows I have been having bad anxiety since January. I didn't tell him exactly what I was thinking or feeling because I didn't want to freak him out or drive him Away or have him think I was actually a lesbian. But he does know I suffer from anxiety and OCD and has been really amazing about it. He knows that sometimes I just need to cry and tell him how I'm feeling, I was so anxious that j barely ate anything for a month and he would bring me food and try to get me to eat and stuff. And recently I have been getting better, the anxiety has been less and I have been trying not to give into my compulsions like checking and ruminating but sometimes I just can't help the ruminating even if I want to stop. The worst part for me is that I still have intrusive images or thoughts. Like sometimes if I'm kissing him an image of a woman will pop up and immediately make me uncomfortable. this also happens when we have sex, and sometimes I'm so scared of having sex because I'm afraid these images will pop up. somedays I wake up and the first thing I think about is my OCD and it is especially hard when I spend the night with him because waking up next to him made me so happy and now sometimes I just wake up anxious and angry that this is happening to me. It's been difficult but I hope that both me and my boyfriend can make it through this and come out the other side a stronger couple.
@ocdsuck729 @ocdsuck729 Interesting. It always amazes me how much similarity I share with some of the people on here, surly that counts as proof this illness is real? Anyway, my life was the same. We were the happiest we’d ever been and I really do mean happy. I;d wake up and thank my lucky stars I had her and it felt like as long as we had each other nothing could do us harm. Turns our OCD can haha. I also always kinda knew I was obsessive but it wasn’t until I spoke to my sister about all of this I truly realised. I explained that I had developed a strange type of ocd and she was like, ‘no shit, we all could have told you that from the age of 10’. I guess until then I never realised it wasn’t normal to have everything done a certain way. I always wanted things perfect to an extent like yourself and if it wasn’t it made me uncomfortable. I feel like I had this idea of what OCD was in my head but never really knew it’s true definition and characteristics. As far as the depression goes I also always felt like the two were linked somehow. I know I may not be wording this very well but believe me I strangely get exactly what you said. Have you ever thought about telling him in more detail what was happening? I guess in my case my gf went through it with me every step of the way. As soon as my first panick attack started she was the first to know. Till this day she does her best to help but still can never really understand. Having said this I couldn’t imagine not telling her, that would be hell.
Waking up next to her and being bombed with these thoughts is especially bad. It’s like i’m still in my body and can almost feel regular true happiness but it’s just blocked by the past 6 months of torture. The end goal is still 100% to get through this with her and come out the other side stronger like you said, but really it is enraging dealing with this sometimes. I often just reach a point where I hate myself and get really angry at this whole thing, as in why the hell is this even happening type anger. Sex is getting better with her, im starting to slowly find the connection we once had but for a while there it was really really difficult. The thoughts spark frustration and fear and instantly kill my sex drive. Anyway I hope you know that you’re not alone and that I get where you’re coming from. Keep up the 10/10 work and drop me a message if you ever want to talk. Supported =)