How to deal with anxiety i believe this may be causing me to

How to deal with anxiety i believe this may be causing me to have relapses with ED I have had a couple times we’re things didn’t work like it should and now when I try to have sex I think about if it is going to happen again and I know that’s not helping but can’t seem to get past it I g et nervous wondering will it happen again how to over come these thoughts on my head

Ok, so it is an anxiety thing. What if you spoke to the person you are having sex with and take penetration off the table. Discuss toys and other fun stuff, porn, cuddling, it is up to you and who you are with, but penetration is never all there is to sex, so until you are confident and happy to do it, just don't do it.