I am a mess. My husband and I have been together over 10 years. Married 9 next month. Two months ago I found out he was cheating. He had been acting so strange. He had hit me and thrown things at me. Mocked me for not being able to give him more children. I had at hysterectomy at 29 because of uterine tumor. When I caught him he laughed in my face. He went to jail for assault and battery because laughing was not all he did. But now his parents are sending cards and his sister is tagging me in pictures of him on Facebook. He is begging to come comeback. I can't do this. My work life and volunteer life are so busy and stressful. I'm finishing my graduate degree. My life is crazy. I just want to be left alone. I still hurt so badly. I feel like a knife in my chest. I don't know how he could do this to me. I hate him. Sorry if this is disjointed and crazy but it is how I feel right now and I am constantly pretending everything is OK. It's not OK it's really not OK.
Hugs, love and support to you. The only thing you can do is stay strong in your desire to better your life. It sounds as though he is using his family as a method of trying to win you back into his life. Did you have a comfortable enough relationship with his family to ask them to back away, or would ignoring them work better? How have you been able to cope through this stress? I am so glad you are here with us, and that we can be here for you! Stay strong and amazing!
I'm so sorry he did this to you. It really is NOT ok - and it is good that you are aware of this. Write away here - never feel disjointed or crazy - you are sharing and putting into words what happened to you. This is a good thing. Keep writing... There are many supporters here!
@Broken_hearted_broken Thank you:)
I love his family. They are and always have been kind to me. They refused to bail him out of jail. I think he has not told them all of what has happened. I want my sons to be able to stay close with their grandparents but I don't want to tell them what their son has done. I don't think it is my place. I guess I haven't really coped and that's why I'm such a mess.
I hope they can continue to be close. It's just hard. Everything is so hard right now. Thank you so much it is nice to be able to relate to people who have had similar things happen. Most of the time people guard their private lives at least in my circle they do.
@Lynda78 I’m pretty guarded too - but this support site helped me through the darkest hours of D-Day. You are not alone. It is hard. And I’m sorry that you are going through this. It’s unacceptable that he hurt you this way. You are strong! Time will give you more clarity on how you want family ties to continue. Hang in there!